Visualization Exercise

You need a 7 Day BrainwashIt’s important to have complete peace and quiet during your visualization, so lie down in a darkened room, unplug the phone and get comfortable.

As you need to relax, take a couple of deep breaths in and then breathe out slowly and gently, forgetting about any problems or self-doubts. Just enjoy the simple pleasure of breathing.

Once you feel relaxed and with eyes closed, try to visualize your ultimate goal. It’s important to be realistic though. If you just want to win the lottery, then that generalized vision isn’t going to be focussed enough. You need to apply intent and integrity and to conjure up the image of you actually achieving those goals. Being able to picture yourself is not always easy but regular practice will give you the all-important techniques.

If your mind starts to wonder and your focus waivers, then bring your mind gently back under control and keep thinking about your deepest desires.

This could be absolutely anything that you have ever wanted in life.

That fantastic new job?

Losing weight?

Getting that college degree?

Or perhaps that lovely villa in Spain?

The benefits of visualization are that you can conjure up any image at will and bring it to life. Make your visualization so powerful that you almost expect to see it materialize in front of you when you open your eyes. It might help you to hear the sounds instead or imagine yourself touching your goals, having it right there in front of you.

Once you have finished your visualization, you can open your eyes but retain that feeling of positivity and enjoy the sensation of connection that you had with your ultimate goal. Always remember how it felt to finally have everything that you want in life. Practice this technique at every opportunity and watch how it increases your motivation and desire to not only reach your goals but to exceed them.

Visualizations can be a powerful way of releasing stress

You need a 7 Day BrainwashVisualizations are powerful ways of releasing stress and to conjure up happier and perhaps more peaceful times for the individual. The techniques (first stage towards meditation) can take a little while to perfect and this varies from person to person but they can be used to suit the individual’s needs. They can be done at any time of the day or night for any length of time, but initially, five or ten minutes may be all that can be sustained without conscious thought interrupting the visualization.

When the individual is about to commence a visualization, it’s important to ensure that the phone is unplugged and that they are unlikely to be disturbed.

Visualization A Beautiful Scene

With eyes closed, it’s important to focus intently on any moment in time where happiness was experienced. This can often be the birth of a child, marriage or simply a moment where pure contentment was reached. To be able to picture the scene completely, it’s important to become part of the scene using memories so that it feels real. In a way, the moment becomes freeze framed for the individual to step into and experience at will.

The Box Visualization

When problems get too much and sleep is interrupted as a result, the best way for any individual to cope with them is to use the Box Visualization’ as this affords a great deal of control over any areas of concern.

When lying down and with eyes closed, imagine the actual problem and make the visualization as clear as possible before mentally shrinking it down to tiny proportions. Mentally place the problem in a box and put the lid on it. Practice makes perfect with this technique and if the problem still plagues during the visualization, it’s important to stay focussed and to keep placing the problem back into the box.

This repetitive action gives you power over the situation. Wrap the box, tape it so that it is secure and then mentally drop the box containing the problem over a bridge and into a fast flowing river. It can be very therapeutic to watch the problem being swept away and will certainly aid sleep as a result.

This can be repeated as many times as is necessary but it’s an excellent tool to help avoid any problems from disturbing sleep. With a full night’s sleep, any problems will look much less concerning anyway.

The Forgotten Skill of Focus

You need a 7 Day BrainwashLately, I have noticed a common theme among many friends, colleagues and associates. It seems we are all struggling with the same issue the ability to stay focused on a single task for a prolonged period of time.

When I recently took a mental inventory of my typical day, I quickly became alarmed by the number of concurrent tasks I found myself working on at any given time. Worse yet, when I examined my results and productivity levels, it was evident that I was struggling to keep up with previous outputs during the earlier phases of my business.

Then I came across an article written by Josh Waitzkin that pinpointed the direct cause of my reduced effectiveness. The article was on a topic he calls the “Multitasking Virus” as posted on Tim Ferriss’ Blog at http://www.fourhourworkweek.com/blog.

In the article, Waitzkin demonstrates the detrimental effects of multi-tasking and makes reference to a recent study at the British Institute of Psychiatry which ” showed that checking your email while performing another creative task decreases your IQ in the moment 10 points. That is the equivalent of not sleeping for 36 hours more than twice the impact of smoking marijuana.”

This was a real eye opener for me! I would have a hard time counting the number of times I had been checking my email throughout any given work day. On more than one occasion, I would completely stop a task (often an important, revenue generating task) to tend to a new email that popped up in my inbox regardless whether it was an important email or not.

When I discovered that this type of distraction was literally decreasing my IQ, I could immediately see certain areas where the quality of my work had been impacted. But it also forced me to stop and think about all of the other distractions that I was allowing (knowingly or unknowingly) to impact my work.

Between news and information websites, email, phone calls, instant messaging and business research, I was probably getting distracted a minimum of 10 times a day! If you think that sounds like a high number, take a few moments right now to mentally review some of your own personal distractions. You will likely notice that they add up pretty quickly! In my case, these distractions would actually make me stop the task at hand and move on to something different. Often, I would move on to something of lower priority but I was unable to recognize this at the time due to the fact that I had been so severely distracted from my previous train of thought.

Like anyone else, I am at my best and produce my most valuable work when I am able to stay focused and concentrated on one item of work. This really applies to any task we perform. If you have ever learned a manual skill like laying a hardwood floor, using a weed remover for your lawn, or even running large stacks of paper through a laminating machine (these all happen to be tasks that I recently performed), you likely noticed a learning curve. At first, you might have felt awkward and you may have even fouled up your first few attempts at the task. Gradually you got the hang of it and developed a rhythm. After a certain period of time, you actually started to master the skill and eventually you were able to do double, triple, quadruple (or even better) your productivity.

The same thing applies to practically everything we do in life. If you want to learn a new skill, the best way to do it is through a complete immersion process. If you want to run a marathon, you focus on running and likely divert from the weight room until after the competition. If you want to learn how to speak Spanish, your best bet is to get into a Spanish class and postpone your French class until you have mastered Spanish. Regardless of what you may be trying to accomplish, you will produce your best results when you are able to consistently focus on the highest priority activities.

When I want to write an article, I remove myself from all distractions. I even remove myself physically from my office and go to the library or another spot where I have no choice but to focus on the task at hand. My local library happens to have neither wireless internet availability nor cell phone reception. This combination makes for the perfect cure to my typical interruptions! I am often able to complete my articles or reports in less than a third of the time it would have taken me had I been working from my office and connected to my world of distractions.

An empowering discovery I have made about utilizing the power of focus is that it becomes increasingly easier to stay focused for longer stretches as you develop the mental discipline. One of the six intellectual faculties of every thinking person is something called “will”. This is our ability to sustain concentration on one item for an extended period of time. If you think of your “will” as a mental muscle, you can actually grow and develop this muscle similar to the way you would develop physical muscles at the gym; through frequent exercise.

If you are experiencing problems with productivity, take some time to carefully review the key points of this article. Then, try to determine if and where you are falling victim to distractions. Make a commitment to eliminate these distractions (disconnect from the internet, turn off the cell phone, etc ) so you can begin to practice your focusing exercises. You may want to start with 30 minute blocks. Work on staying 100% present with the task at hand. Monitor your progress. As you feel comfortable and find your rhythm, work on stretching it out to an hour, then two hours and then go beyond if you can.

But don’t forget to listen to your mind and body. Taking breaks is absolutely critical for your long term success. Since I often work from home, I use my breaks to drop all work from my mind and spend quality time with my wife and son. Whatever your situation, make sure you have an outlet to relieve your mind from your work for at least 15 minutes at a time.

Then when you’re ready, go back and continue to strengthen your focusing skills.

Old Hat

You need a 7 Day BrainwashI do my best, I do. I try with each post to be totally original, but sometimes, just sometimes I think, “Weeeeelll, I know they’ve heard it before, but maybe it wouldn’t hurt for them to hear it again.” (Of course, what I don’t tell you is that I get to hear it for myself again, ‘cos I need reminding of these things too. The great thing about being the author of these messages is that I get to write them and read them!)

Anyway, enough!

Yesterday I heard of a friend of ours in distress. Not funny. A very unpleasant dilemma indeed, she has. And I know it’s old hat, but here’s the train of thought it sparked off in me. I thought I bet some of my readers have challenges too – so …

It will pass. All things will. And your greatest resource is you. No matter that the world may collapse around your ears, tomorrow morning you’re gonna wake up, and you’re always going to do something. What you do and how you go about doing it depends on what you focus on. The trouble is, in times of stress and distress we tend to see nothing but the trouble.

So you could use Tony Robbins’ Morning Power Questions:

a.. What am I happy about in my life now? (Don’t let yourself come up with “Nuffin’. Everything stinks.” If that happens, say, “Well, if I was happy about something, what would it be?”) b.. What am I grateful for in my life now? c.. Who do I love? And who loves me? That’s not his complete set of questions, but I think if you just focused on those, you’d start the day as a much happier bunny. It won’t solve your problems, but it might give you the energy to remind yourself that you have the resources to turn anything around, and that what seem like insurmountable difficulties is actually you setting yourself challenges so that you can find the way to set yourself free. Without the challenges you would never have bothered even looking for a way out.

There is a Chinese proverb which goes something like, “The road before you is clear. Why then do you throw rocks in your own path?”

Maybe that’s the reason. And once you start to accept they’re your own rocks, clearing them can become a more energised, even joyful challenge.

Old hat? Maybe. But good stuff I reckon.

Practice Persistence

You need a 7 Day Brainwash“Nothing in this world can take the place of persistence. Talent will not; nothing is more common than unsuccessful people with talent. Genius will not; genius is almost a proverb. Education will not; the world is full of educated derelicts. Persistence and determination alone are omnipotent. The slogan “press on” has solved and always will solve the problems of the human race.”

Calvin Coolidge

Most people already know that a great deal of persistence is required to reach any goal of major significance whether it be business related, financial or even athletic (just check out the regimen of an Olympian…they breathe persistence). When you have a DMP (Definite Major Purpose) that has been designed around your core passions in life, persistence becomes less of an effort’ and more of a natural state of being.

I mean, if you are working on a really big goal that is completely aligned with your passions and values, you are going to have no problem going back to work, day after day, until your dream has been realized.

On the flip side of the coin, if you are working on a goal to please someone else or for some other superficial reason, your ability to persist and see that goal through to completion can become incredibly burdensome and even downright depressing.

Enough about depressing goals, you are here because you are excited about life and excited about your goals and dreams… so let’s continue.

If you think back to the previous lesson we talked about the idea of interrupting the pattern of self-limiting thinking and replacing it with new, empowering thoughts. While thinking a new thought may seem natural in a moment of inspiration, your negative thought patterns have been developing themselves year after year and have buried themselves firmly within your subconscious mind.

You are likely going to experience your mind wanting to revert back to this state. In order to ensure you overcome this trap, consider the following idea…

Through the act of persistence, you can begin to monitor your REACTIONS towards life as you go about your day-to-day experience. Your REACTIONS are a direct translation of the type of thoughts you are focusing on. If your reactions are moving you away from your goal, you now have the opportunity to use your personal perception to see the situation in a new light, and ultimately change your reaction to the event.

For example, let’s say you suffered an accident and tore your shoulder in the process. Perhaps your natural reaction would be to feel sorry for yourself and complain about your bad luck and all of the activities you will be missing as a result of the injury. Using your PERCEPTION, you could look at the situation with an opportunistic attitude and ask yourself, “Can I learn from this?” Or you might even ask, “How can I overcome this injury and use my recovery to inspire/ teach others to do the same?” (There is actually a guy on the internet who did this and turned his misfortune…into a FORTUNE!!)

Repeat this new way of thinking over and over again and the result is a new habit. As we all know, habits are tough to break and ultimately, our habits run our life. Let’s get the good habits working for us!

Design your life

You need a 7 Day BrainwashOne of the most difficult things to master in life is your own mind. Every one of us has hundreds, maybe even thousands, of thought patterns that repeat themselves over and over in our head.

Some of these thoughts are supportive of our goals and self esteem but many of them actually hurt us or hold us back.

Taking control of your mind and directing your thoughts towards the things you want in life can be a huge challenge. But when you are able to overcome the challenges and focus on the things you intend to create in your life, the results can be amazing and exciting.

Let’s say, for example, that you have had a lifelong dream of traveling the world for a year. You know that this would be a life changing experience that you would remember forever.

But then you look at your current circumstances and you see a laundry list of reasons why this dream could never come true: a good job you can’t leave, a lack of funding, commitments to family, friends, teams and organizations, etc…

Your mind immediately says, “this trip is not possible until you clear all of those obstacles out of the way.” You then realize that removing all of those limitations is next to impossible and even if you are able to remove them, new obligations/limitations will replace the existing ones.

At the same time, you could look at other areas of your life where you are able to make things happen that seem impossible: you meet a crazy deadline at work, you brave the snowy roads and somehow make 3 family events for Christmas, you get the kids to school and yourself to work despite a huge traffic jam and car problems. The point is, you are achieving things in your life, on a regular basis, that seem difficult or impossible when you analyze them. Yet you seem to pull them off over and over again because you had no other choice… you had to get these things done.

When you realize that you have this ability to make things happen and figure things out “on the fly”, you gain a new confidence that you can apply to even the biggest goals in your life.

So if your dream is to travel the world but there are a mountain of excuses stopping you, the real solution is to treat the dream as inevitable and start acting as though it is inevitable. It could start with a small action like doing research on places to stay in your dream locations or it could start with a huge action like buying plane ticket to the first country on your dream list. This first action will lead to another and like every other time in your life, you will figure it out as you go along only this time, instead of getting the kids to school or finishing that project at work, you will be fulfilling a lifelong dream!

Do you know what triggers your stress?

You need a 7 Day BrainwashBecause stress can be endured over a period of time without the individual truly becoming aware of it or by them simply accepting it as part of their lives, one of the most important aspects of stress management is to take those first positive steps towards making key changes as this will then create the strong foundations that are required to master stress control.

It’s important that progression is consistent throughout; they may be small steps individually but they are powerful ones nevertheless. The idea is to change any existing behaviours and to stress-proof new routines as much as possible, re-inventing both thought and actions going forward. This might sound difficult, but the most difficult aspect is always going to be identifying areas of change, after that, it is merely consolidating those lifestyle changes.

When life is muddled and very stressful, identifying the stress triggers that cause the problems will make changing them that much easier. Taking a pen and paper, write down all of the things that cause the most stress.

– No time to yourself

– Problems with the teenage son or daughter

– Money problems- more going out than coming in

– Feeling undervalued at home and at work

– Too much work

The list should be as comprehensive as possible and very honest. No-one else has to see the list and even those annoying little stressors should be captured because although on their own, they may just be a source of irritation, coupled with other factors, they can form powerful stress triggers that can cause much damage physically, healthily and emotionally.

Once the list is complete, it should be scrutinized with a sense of clarity to identify those areas where changes could be made. If necessary break the list down into a series of sub-sections and options such as:

– Feeling undervalued at home

– Having to do all of the housework as well as work full-time

– Main culprit Husband/Wife step-son

– Started happening when partner changed job and worked a lot more hours (pattern established).

Options

– Open up communication to partner

– Discuss jointly with step son and work out parameters

– Stick to it.

By writing down everything that evokes a stress response i.e. churning feeling in the stomach, headaches, tears, anger, or irritability for example, the individual is able to really understand what is going on in their lives and why they feel the way they do. In addition, this clarification of stress triggers helps the individual to face any set of real problems and tangible problems can always be overcome.

Self doubts, irregular thought patterns and feelings of inadequacies or helplessness are more difficult to fight. Ascertain the true cause of those stressors and deal with them one by one.

Have a positive attitude

You need a 7 Day BrainwashIf you have a positive attitude, you will find it much easier to manifest your desires, as you will be naturally giving out positive emotional thought vibrations which will attract positive things to you. Even if you are not consciously trying to manifest something, your positive attitude will naturally attract more things to be positive about and you will be one of those people who seem to attract endless good fortune.

Try to remain positive at all times. This doesn’t mean you can never feel down or can never again have a good old moan, but you have to make your natural state as positive and as upbeat as possible. Get out of the habit of complaining about certain situations in your life. Stop any negative self talk, such as Oh I’ll never be able to do that’. Expect that good things will happen to you and that every outcome will be positive.

If something unwanted happens, try to see a positive side to it if you can. For example, if you moan that every time you have a little extra money, your car needs repairs or you receive an unexpected bill, try turning it around and start being thankful that you have the extra money to allow you to pay for these unexpected expenses.

I heard about someone whose car required so many repairs it was not economically worth repairing. He couldn’t afford to replace it, so decided he would have to go without a car until he had saved the money for a new one. He started cycling to work, and after a few months realized that he had lost two stones in weight and was enjoying cycling so much he decided to take it up competitively. So from not being able to afford a new car, he became fit and healthy and found a new hobby!

Always get into the habit of looking for the positive side to your problems.

Unfortunately our natural state is to feel either negative or at best in a state of what I call flat- neither unhappy but not particularly great either. It is very difficult to attract positive things into your life by feeling flat, as you are shutting yourself off from vibrating at a higher level; these vibrations flow best when you are feeling happy, positive and good about yourself.

Do more of the things that bring you joy, for whenever you feel joy, happiness and love you are connected most strongly to your higher self. Chat to your partner, laugh with your children, stroke or play with your pet. Meet up with a friend for coffee and have a laugh. Listen to your favorite music, or music that calms, relaxes or inspires you, or watch a television show that motivates you or makes you laugh.

Place pictures of your family, your pets or of you enjoying a favorite hobby around your home and place of work. Looking at them should help you to feel instantly more positive and full of love.

Exercise can be a great mood lifter. Even a gentle walk can raise your spirits and boost your energy levels.

Nobody can feel happy all of the time, although feeling upbeat becomes easier the more you practice it, but start by finding things to feel great about in your life; laugh more, moan less, hang around with positive, upbeat people and try to avoid negative folk. Expect that things will turn out well and that if you experience a problem you will find a solution. Expect good things to come your way!

Not only will you start to attract many more good things than bad into your life, but you will be much more open to receiving your intentions.

15 tips to keep you positive

You need a 7 Day BrainwashStruggling? Remember that most successful people found success out of problems and struggles. Maybe this moment is YOUR BIG OPPORTUNITY?

If you are working on big plans for your life, there is a very good chance that you are going to face obstacle after obstacle.

Life IS persistence and your ability to persist will ultimately define who you are.

Use today to think about your life in ways that will only strengthen your persistence muscles and drive you forward.

There is no magic pill that you can take to suddenly become confident but you can certainly make a habit of practicing your confidence.

Think about all of the wins you have experienced in your life. Big or small it doesn’t matter. Feed your mind with “confidence fuel”.

Convince yourself that you are DAMN good and experience the true feelings of confidence as it permeates through you.

BE YOURSELF. This means showing your true colors in all situations. It means acting wild and crazy even when others look at you funny.

There is no truer sense of freedom then when you can 100% express yourself, your opinions and your true feelings.

People fall into one of two categories when it comes to fear. They either know and face their fears or they deny and hide from their fears.

Make today all about committing to the breakthrough DESPITE any level of fear. Focus on the gain and the positive outcome.

My challenge to you is simple. Before you go to bed tonight, take 1 bold action in the direction of your major passions.

Every successful person that you can find has overcome enormous odds and obstacles.

New challenges show their faces almost daily. The obstacles tend to grow in proportion to the size of your goals.

If you have a massive life goal you are working towards then you are likely facing massive obstacles.

How thought vibrations affect your life

You need a 7 Day BrainwashThe emotional energy we give out in the form of thoughts is referred to as a vibration. Our thoughts are only powerful when they are connected to emotions. This is just as well, as we can have many thousands of different thoughts each day, but most are only fleeting so do not contain any emotional energy. The thoughts we need to be aware of are those that we attach emotional feeling to. For example, if you are really worried about money, and this is constantly on your mind, you are likely to feel very emotionally anxious about this, which will affect your thought vibrations and attract more reasons to feel worried about money into your life. On the other hand, if you see a dog playing, you may have the passing thought that it would be nice to have a dog, but this is soon forgotten. If you don’t feel strongly about having a dog then this thought will not be charged with emotional energy and so you will not be giving out any strong vibrations.

You probably know someone who always seems to look on the down side of life (or maybe you are that person!) I once heard about someone who was constantly moaning about the negative things which happened to him; the poor service he received in restaurants, the things that used to breakdown in his home, his children’s’ behaviour his first words when he walked into the office were You’re not going to believe what’s happened now!’ before launching into his latest tale of woe. The funny thing was, the more he moaned the more negative experiences he had! His car was always breaking down, he encountered more problems in his work than anyone else, and if an illness was doing the rounds, he and his family were always the first to get it. Because he was always expecting the worst to happen, and expecting that he was going to experience nothing but problems, this expectation is what he was giving out in his thought vibrations. Of course he was attracting more problems, more bad service, more illness and more reasons to moan.

I should make it clear here that the universe does not bring you problems because you are a bad or evil person. Nobody is judging you. The law of attraction cannot understand our thoughts, only our thought vibrations. It does not attract good’ or bad’ vibrations, it attracts like vibrations- this is a very important concept to understand. If you are feeling bad, you are giving out vibrations to reflect your feelings, and the law of attraction simply works through the universe to bring you what it thinks you want- namely more reasons to feel bad. For example, if you are constantly stressing and stewing over all the debt you have, the universe receives the connected thought vibrations and thinks you want more debt- so manifests more bills, or a car breakdown.

Contrast this with someone who always seems to be happy and positive and who expects things to go well; they generally do, because this is what they are attracting through their thought vibrations. I have heard the phrase money goes to money’ many times; the idea being that money seems to be attracted to those who already have plenty of it. I would suggest that this is the law of attraction at work; people who have money expect to always have plenty, and feel confident and positive in their ability to produce more of it. This is reflected in their thought vibrations, so more money is naturally attracted to them. Learn from them!