Guilt can lead to stress

You need a 7 Day BrainwashMany people hold onto guilt or emotional traumas burying them deep within and this in turn can be a constant source of stress that niggles away and irritates as external stresses build up. Whatever the source of guilt, regret or pain, it will only cause stale energy around the sufferer and hamper any stress reduction if left unresolved.

Guilt and regrets are common as are unresolved issues of rejection, heartbreak and grief but they stagnate and can be a powerful source of stress. To progress and to move away from any previously negative behavioural patterns that might have been developed over the years and to be able to manage stress more easily in the future, it is worth looking back at any of these feelings and identifying how they happened and how they should be dealt with.

Opening up the body, mind and soul to a better way of living means visualizing the negative emotions and recalling sometimes painful memories and this can be difficult, but it’s important that they are identified. Learning to let go of negative emotions and to be ready to move on is the only way forward. Accept that everyone does things that they regret, everyone feels pain, whether self-inflicted or caused through others but it’s unhealthy to hold onto those feelings. Stress management takes many forms and always looks to identify the crux of the matter.

Any visualization can be adapted to suit the individual’s personal circumstances, it simply requires them to focus on what they are trying to achieve before starting the visualization.

Healing Arrows is another useful visualization that can help you to focus on the inner most hurts and wounds that may have been damaging over the years. Focussing on these wounds is not to make the person re-suffer but to allow the sometimes fermenting wound to be emotionally cleansed and allow healing to take place.

With eyes closed and in a quiet space, the individual should focus on a time when they experienced emotional pain, trauma or conflict. This can be an emotional journey but to face up to any buried feelings, guilt or pain is an important part of the journey. If the event was simply buried at the time and is still tender and raw inside, then healing will not have begun yet.

Imagine the wound and lying within is a buried arrow, which is still keeping the emotional pain alive. Mentally imagine moving the arrow from the wound (the trauma) and realize that it doesn’t hurt to move it but instead, a sense of relief is experienced as the situation (the pain) is now able to heal and the wound is being cleansed.

Focus on the memory associated with the wound and watch it dissipate. As with all things in life, it’s important that the situation is accepted but understand that it is now possible to move on.

This is quite a powerful visualization and can take some time for the power behind it to materialize; it should be practiced regularly for maximum effect and can be adapted to suit.

Positive Notes

Write down something positive about life. Too often people concentrate on the negative aspects of their lives and this becomes the complete thought process upon which they live. No life is all good or all bad but to help ward off feelings of negativity and stress, write down all of the things that are good on an individual basis and then re-read it.

It may sometimes come as a surprise as to how much good is already there and how minimal the stress is by comparison. This technique provides clarity.

3 Ways You Can Attract Abundance

You need a 7 Day BrainwashYou don’t have to look very far to see the law of abundance in action. A single apple seed can spawn an entire orchard, whilst to count the individual grains of sand on a beach would take many lifetimes. (As well as being somewhat pointless).

The universe is clearly abundant. Not only that, but it has no resistance. Can you imagine the creative force, (whatever name you choose to give that), saying, “Well, I’m sorry. There just aren’t going to be any stars in the sky until next year – it’s too energy consuming!”

If you want to attract abundance, or indeed “trigger” the law of abundance in your life, here are three powerful ways you can get the ball rolling.

1. Accept you are a part of the abundance, not separate from it. For centuries now, our Westernized minds have conceived of ourselves as separate from our environment, resulting in an “us against the world” mentality.

If that was truly the case, could you say where you end and air or sunlight begins? Without either you could not exist, and yet we have the experience of those things being “outside” of ourselves because they aren’t under our direct conscious control. But conscious awareness is not the defining boundary of who and what you are.

Scarcity thinking, as opposed to an abundance mentality, comes about as a result of sensing this illusory separation. It is as absurd for you to think that you cannot attract an abundance of money, for example, as it would be for the ocean to consider it had run out of waves! The law of abundance doesn’t desert you, but you can dam it up by believing in its somehow skipping you.

2. Believe in your worthiness. There’s a tendency, because there are a lot of people on this planet, to think of yourself as “just an ordinary Joe or Jane.” In fact, there’s no such thing as an “ordinary” person! Every one of us is utterly unique. Attend anyone’s funeral and listen to the eulogies for confirmation of that fact.

At your funeral, a lot of people will say a lot of nice and wonderful things about you! So you might as well accept now that you make a positive contribution to a lot of lives and that you matter.

As you open your mind and heart to that notion, you open a channel too for the law of abundance to begin flowing its treasures to you once more.

3. Finally, a paradox. Stop trying so hard! We are somewhat obsessed with “to do lists” and “goal achievement.” There’s nothing intrinsically wrong with those notions unless they start to rule our lives. They are meant to serve you, not control you!

The law of abundance operates freely when you are living from your heart, relaxed and enjoying what you do. In other words, come from a place within first that feels good and let what you do flow from that.

There you have it. Three law of abundance tips that can change your life. All you have to do is to start believing in them and acting on them – starting right now.

What Are You Dedicating Your Life To?

You need a 7 Day BrainwashWhether you realize it or not, the way you choose to spend your day is ultimately a trade off. You

are literally trading the minutes, hours and days of your life in exchange for your current

activities. Most of us spend 40 (and often more) hours per week trading the precious moments of

our life for our job. Two questions immediately rise to the surface:

1. Do you consciously recognize and appreciate each day of your life with the awareness

that none of us know how much or how little time we have left?

2. If so, are you making a fair trade (i.e. are your activities worthy of your life energy)?

When I rst understood this lesson at both an intellectual and emotional level, my honest answer

to both of the above questions was NO! I was not necessarily taking my life for granted but I also

did not truly appreciate my days. I was devoting my time to a number of things that did not make

me happy and I was avoiding facing my fears. My mindset was I will deal with it at a better

time.’ Deep down I knew I was simply avoiding the issue altogether.

Speci cally, I am talking about my professional career. Although I was quite successful, had a

great salary, great security, excellent bene ts and room to grow in the organization, I did not

enjoy the work. I would start my day and look forward for it to be over. I did not work with any

passion. Worst of all, I was trading my life for this career.

Because this was the only profession I knew and spent many years establishing myself, it never

actually occurred to me that change was possible. I simply assumed that I would have to stick it

out and hopefully do well enough nancially so that I could retire early and THEN begin to

enjoy my days.

Then I got involved in personal development programs. I started to learn more about life and

more about the mind. I quickly realized that I had been operating my life following a set of

beliefs and paradigms that were not necessarily ideas that I agreed with. I had always assumed

that everyone disliked their job and it was just something we all had to go through to earn our

retirement’.

When I found out that there were many people who loved their work and had found a way to

make a living based on their passions, I was very intrigued. I was also wary of the idea because it

sounded too good to be true.

As I started to study some of these people and learn about the inspiring lives they were living, I

realized a very important distinction between them and myself. Unlike me at the time, they DID

appreciate the value of each living day and they also structured their life in such a way that they

were trading their days for a purpose worthy of them and their true values.

When I compared them to myself, I was trading the days of my life for something that made me

unhappy. When I dissected it further, I was choosing this lifestyle because I was too afraid to

change. I was afraid to give up the salary and bene ts, afraid to give up the position that took so

many years to obtain, afraid to admit to others that I was unhappy and afraid to decide what I

truly wanted out of life.

The more I thought about it and the more I studied personal development teachings and success

stories, the greater my desire for change became. I started to reprogram my mind so that the pain

of remaining status quo was actually more intense than the fear of change. I know many personal

growth programs advocate positive thinking, but negative motivators inspire action for all of us.

It certainly worked in my case.

Not only did this new mindset drive me to nd my true passion and true calling in life (speaking

and coaching), it helped me establish a sense of personal freedom that can best be described as

liberation. There came a point where my self image literally shifted and I saw myself safely and

con dently walking away from the career that I had so desperately held onto for many years.

The days of my life were far too important and valuable to be spending them doing something

that had no meaning for me. After I resigned from that position, I made a personal commitment

to dedicate the rest of my working days doing only that which I love.

I now love my work. I look forward to my days. I look forward to new projects and new

opportunities. I never think about retirement because I never plan on retiring. When you do what

you love, why would you ever want to stop?

If you are reading this article and can share a similar story, please contact me directly as I would

love to put together a special edition of my newsletter to pro le all of the inspiring and uplifting

stories of people who are living their dream.

Improve Yourself Programatically

You need a 7 Day BrainwashFor the past 3 years, I have spent most of my time developing my business and along the way, have had to overcome a number of fears and self-limiting ideas. What I was really doing was reprogramming my mind to think differently.

Here are 3 techniques you might want to try that will help you reprogram yourself to a new and improved YOU:

1. Hang out with an influencer.

When I first got started in business, I was struggling to pay the bills and find enough clients to keep me going. Even when I did find clients, I did a terrible job billing for my time and I was not recognizing my own value as a service provider.

I was then lucky enough to meet another business owner who had built a number of successful companies and had already been through all of the tough business lessons that I had yet to be exposed to. Over time we became friends and I was able to absorb an incredible amount of information about business, mindset, dealing with clients, social skills, etc… all of the things that made him so talented at business.

The challenge here is that you can’t just walk up to someone and ask them to be your friend. When you meet someone who you would like to learn from, show them that you value their time and bring something of your own to the table. If they feel they can also learn from you and your life experiences, they will be far more willing to hang out with you.

2. Wage a war against the whiny voice in your head.

Have you ever had an idea that totally captivated your imagination and inspired you to think about a life far beyond the one you are living today? If so, were you also among the majority of people who had that cynical, whiny, negative voice pop up and immediately tell you all the reasons why this new idea could never come true?

Instead of falling victim to that defeating voice, try turning the tables. Picture that voice as a vicious enemy trying to steal your life, power and happiness away from you. Challenge the voice. Question its authenticity. Question its reasoning. Make it powerless against your will.

Realize that you have the choice to replace that voice with a more encouraging, faithful and friendly one. A voice that will consider your goal not just a possibility, but a probability. A voice that does not look externally for validation before taking action, but rather, uses self-belief as its driving force. A voice that realizes that any person who has ever achieved greatness had to do so against similar odds and that all things are possible to those who commit to their vision.

3. Get the competitive edge.

When you want to accomplish something new, try setting up a competition against one or more people who want the same thing. This creates two powerful forces.

The first is the desire to be triumphant. Imagine the excitement someone must feel when they win a gold medal in the Olympics. They have achieved a personal dream and they get a flood of recognition from friends, family, media, fans and ultimately their entire country. What person would not love this kind of validation of success? The same kind of triumph can be experienced when you win a competition that you have been involved in, no matter how small it may be.

The second (and more powerful) force that gets created in competition is the desire to avoid defeat. Most humans instinctively associate any form of loss with pain and in most cases, will do anything necessary to avoid that pain. If you enter some kind of competition that will help drive you towards your goals, this pain avoidance force may be the deciding factor in your success.

Use competitive scenarios to drive you forward but remember to detach from the outcome. If you happen to lose your competition, don’t get down in the dumps. Focus on what positives came out of it (usually a drastic increase in results) and continue moving towards your goals.

A Child’s Perspective

You need a 7 Day BrainwashThis past month, my wife and I have started sending our 2 sons to public daycare. The 1 year old is too young to understand what is going on so he is always happy to be there. The 3 year old, on the other hand, has been having a very difficult time in the mornings. As soon as we get in the car, he starts crying and it gets progressively more intense as we get closer to the daycare. By the time we are in his classroom, he is in a near panic, screaming and drawing intense stares from the other parents and staff. Within seconds of me leaving, he completely calms down and gets absorbed with some fun new activity that he would not have been able to experience at home.

Witnessing this really drove home a new realization for me. We all have the ability to experience happiness (or any other positive emotion for that matter) at any time we choose to do so. The advantage with children is that they let go very quickly and have a much easier time living in the moment.

I started thinking more about how most adults handle these kinds of situations, myself included, and in the majority of cases it takes a much longer time to move from a depressed state to one of positivity and happiness.

I can think of many times in my life where I spent an entire day in a negative state carrying around a grudge about something that happened many hours (or even days) prior. At the time, I didn’t even realize that I had control over the situation. Complete victim mentality.

Having spent a number of years working on my own personal development, I now experience far more happy and positive moments than negative ones. But I think it is only human to have times when the doom and gloom creeps in. My new strategy when dealing with these circumstances is to literally think like a 3 year old.

As an example, a few weeks ago I was expecting payment from a client with whom I made an agreement to offer a monthly payment plan. This was something I did more as a favor than a standard policy. When the client ignored my first, then second payment request, I felt myself becoming extremely frustrated. In the past, an event like this might have soured my mood, and in turn my productivity for the entire day (if not longer). I used the opportunity to literally picture myself as the 3 year old easily moving from one moment of devastation to a brand new moment of fun and opportunity. Instead of picking up a coloring book or a new toy fire truck, I picked up my laptop and began working on an exciting new project that I was involved in. My mood shifted immediately. I then took it up a notch with some inspiring music and before I knew it I was feeling amazing and very excited about my day.

I have still not been paid by that client but I’m okay with that now. The new project that I got involved in has already more than paid for the unpaid bill from my deficient client and I’m having a lot more fun with what I’m doing now.

Next time you are feeling overwhelmed by negativity, frustration, anger or depression, try remembering what it was like as a kid when you could experience pure happiness at any moment you chose to do so!

Give yourself permission to go for it

You need a 7 Day Brainwash“Are you in earnest? Seize this very minute! Boldness has genius, power, and magic in it. Only engage, and then the mind grows heated. Begin, and then the work will be completed. ” Jean Anouilh

Most of us have a list of things we have wanted to do in our lives, but we never got around to doing them for one reason or another. Whether it was learning a new instrument, taking a special trip, moving to a completely new place, starting a dream business or anything else that we might consider a “dream” that we may realize “some day”.

As the months and years slip by, “some day” never happens and those inspiring ideas and dreams ultimately slip away as well. This is a common story for many people.

But there are also a small group of people who don’t allow this to happen. They are the action takers and the masses of people who don’t follow their dreams will often look at this group of people living inspiring lives, and wonder what their secret is.

Very often, the key difference between the dreamers and the people actually living their dreams is simply their attitude. These inspirational people decide that they want to do something and then they do whatever it takes to make sure the experience becomes reality. They don’t focus on, or worry about the risks and they don’t wait for “permission” to act on their ideas.

If you look at some of the most common excuses that stop people from taking action on a bold, exciting idea, they usually sound something like this:

“My boss wouldn’t approve of me doing this.”

“My parents would think I’m irresponsible.”

“My friends would make fun of me.”

“Everyone will think I’m chasing another one of my crazy dreams.”

“I’m too old to be trying something so risky.”

In other words, many people are abandoning some of the most important ideas and goals in their life because of the potential of being ridiculed or put down by other people who don’t understand the dream.

In essence, they feel like the don’t have “permission” to go after the thing they want.

As soon as you realize that there is no one who will grant you permission, everything changes. As soon as you begin speaking to yourself differently, everything changes. When you realize that there is no one controlling your decisions and there is no one to get permission from, you regain the power you need to act on your biggest ideas.

Take some time today to get back in touch with some of the big ideas that you may have abandoned in the past. Why did you abandon those ideas? Is there still a part of you that wants to achieve this thing? If so, how can you begin to change your thinking so that you give yourself permission to go for it?

One small step is all it takes

You need a 7 Day BrainwashI’ve never really addressed the question of what positive living is, have I?

Part of the reason for that I suppose is that it’s going to be different for everyone – at least in the detail, but perhaps in general there are things we all want.

We all want to be loved, for example. (Don’t try and hide, I know you do too!). We all want to feel safe and secure, and we all need that spice of life – variety, don’t we?

But the bottom line is, we feel we’re living positively when we feel we’re getting somewhere. And in order to feel that, we have to have an idea where we think we want to get to, right? Just getting by doesn’t feed the soul. Paying the bills may be necessary, but it won’t warm the heart.

Today, in case you’ve lost the knack, dare to dream. Where do you want to be in a year’s time? In five or ten? And before you dismiss this with thoughts of “it’s for others, but not for me,” remember that old Chinese proverb: “A journey of a thousand miles begins with a single step.” And, I would add, often with a simple step too.

What single, simple step could you take today that would start your odyssey? It needn’t be expensive or expansive, just personal and definite.

And who knows, once you’ve taken it, tomorrow you may find it so much easier to take the second.

How the law of attraction can help your career

You need a 7 Day BrainwashThose of you who are searching for a job may find it impossible to find one which suits you. Is this because such a job does not exist, or is it because in your subconscious mind you believe that you will not be able to find a job, and consequently are releasing so much negative energy out into the universe that you are actually driving those jobs away?

Anyone who has ever tried to search for a job (or known somebody who has) knows that you have a drastically improved chance of finding employment when you are already employed elsewhere than if you are unemployed. For someone who has lost their job and is currently unemployed it may seem easier to climb Mount Everest than to get that first all-important interview. It seems as though nobody is interested in what they have to offer.

Why is this? It’s certainly not because there are no employment opportunities out there; many people manage to find jobs relatively easily and some even hold down two or three different jobs. Why, then, do people suffer from unemployment for months or even years at a time?

The answer to that is they often believe they will not be able to find a job, and consequently they have stopped trying. In their subconscious minds they do not truly believe that any of their efforts will work, and so they are projecting that negative thought energy out to the universe.

On the other hand, an individual who already has a job is secure and confident in their ability to find a job and do it well; after all, someone has obviously thought them worthy enough to hire them (and keep them) in the first place, and chances are if they are searching for a new job it is because they are confident enough in their abilities that they believe they deserve a job that will treat them better/pay them more/provide more stimulating work/etc.

Since they are projecting this positive energy out, they will be drawing in positive energy as well, attracting the job that they truly want.

Chances are that you too are looking for more from your career than you have right now. If you are still seeking that dream job, simply state your intention; ask the universe for it, imagine yourself in your dream job, feel as thought you have it, believe that it is yours and then sit back and wait, secure in the knowledge that the law of attraction will bring it into your life. It might not be today, it might not exactly how you expected, but it will happen.

Maybe you are satisfied with the job you have but you are seeking a promotion; after all, no one wants to be at the bottom of the career ladder forever.

In order to get the promotion you are dreaming about the first thing you must do is remove any doubt from your mind. Walk into the interview one hundred percent sure that the position is yours; remember, if you are still living with the belief that the position may be above you and you are not certain that you have the necessary skills to fill it then you are absolutely right. On the other hand, if you believe that the position is yours and you do have the necessary skills to do a good job, you are also right! So what is your reality going to be?

If you have ever gone to high school you have probably received advice on what to do and what not to do in an interview. One of the biggest don’ts in interviewing protocol is to let the interviewer see that you are nervous. By showing the interviewer that you have confidence in your ability to handle any job which they throw at you, you are increasing your value as an employee in their eyes.

The same can be said of any attempts to open a business. It is essential when approaching prospective investors that you have one hundred percent confidence in yourself and your business in order to guarantee that they will be willing to take a chance on you.

Is this need for absolute confidence a coincidence only, or is it the law of attraction at work? By having confidence in your abilities you are sending positive energy out into the universe, and consequently drawing the positive energies currently existing in the universe back to you.

I can’t emphasize enough the importance of sending out positive thought vibrations as often as you can. The release of positive thought energy into the universe is what allows you manifest your dream life rather than just drifting and accepting whatever comes your way because you don’t feel that you can change it.

Keep your dreams to yourself

You need a 7 Day BrainwashOver the years, I have read hundreds of books, listened to hundreds of tapes and attended dozens of courses – all to discover the secrets of using my mind to bring me peace, happiness and to manifest into physical reality what it is I think I want at the time. With each new discovery, I have been excited sometimes to the point of bursting, and I can’t wait to tell all my friends and just about anyone who will listen to the latest key to success I have discovered.

And guess what they say?

“You can’t do that!”

“That will never work!”

“If that was true, how come everyone doesn’t do it?”

And so on. Not all of them, but by far the majority. Suddenly I am on the defensive, but ultimately the shiny new discovery is tarnished, enthusiasm wanes. I doubt.

Today I have made a new discovery on the road to peace, happiness and material wealth, and I am going to share it with you. It is this: Keep your counsel.

If you don’t, people will knock your dreams down like the tide over sand castles. They don’t mean to. They think they’re being kind. They don’t want to see you hurt. But the truth is, they’ve settled for living with disappointment. They’ve been hurt by life and they think that’s all there is.

Dream big, my friends, as big as you like. But dream secret. And when those dreams come true and your friends all ask how you did it, you can tell them:

“Just lucky, I guess.”