Author: Brianna Wiest | Source: Thoughtcatalog.com
If you have fallen short of the person you can be, then it is demoralizing. You move three steps forward, and then fall two backwards. You feel that you are moving like a snail. What could possible go wrong? You are doing something right and wrong. Noticing it is what you are doing right. If you do not notice it, then you would not move forward. This is the implication of being blocked or stuck. This self-awareness is the key to progress both in personal and spiritual aspect.
“All successful people men and women are big dreamers. They imagine what their future could be, ideal in every respect, and then they work every day toward their distant vision, that goal or purpose. ”
“Communication is a skill that you can learn. It’s like riding a bicycle or typing. If you’re willing to work at it, you can rapidly improve the quality of every part of your life. ”
“Decisiveness is a characteristic of high-performing men and women. Almost any decision is better than no decision at all. ”
“Develop an attitude of gratitude, and give thanks for everything that happens to you, knowing that every step forward is a step toward achieving something bigger and better than your current situation. ”
“Goals allow you to control the direction of change in your favor.”
“I’ve found that luck is quite predictable. If you want more luck, take more chances. Be more active. Show up more often. ”
“If what you are doing is not moving you towards your goals, then it’s moving you away from your goals. ”
“If you raise your children to feel that they can accomplish any goal or task they decide upon, you will have succeeded as a parent and you will have given your children the greatest of all blessings. ”
“If you wish to achieve worthwhile things in your personal and career life, you must become a worthwhile person in your own self- development. ”
“It doesn’t matter where you are coming from. All that matters is where you are going. ”
“Just as your car runs more smoothly and requires less energy to go faster and farther when the wheels are in perfect alignment, you
perform better when your thoughts, feelings, emotions, goals, and values are in balance. ”
“Move out of your comfort zone. You can only grow if you are willing to feel awkward and uncomfortable when you try something new. ”
“Never say anything about yourself you do not want to come true.”
“Only by contending with challenges that seem to be beyond your strength to handle at the moment you can grow more surely toward the stars. ”
“People with clear, written goals, accomplish far more in a shorter period of time than people without them could ever imagine. ”
“Successful people are always looking for opportunities to help others. Unsuccessful people are always asking, “What’s in it for me?” ”
“Successful people are simply those with successful habits.”
“Teamwork is so important that it is virtually impossible for you to reach the heights of your capabilities or make the money that you want without becoming very good at it. ”
“The happiest people in the world are those who feel absolutely terrific about themselves, and this is the natural outgrowth of accepting total responsibility for every part of their life. ”
“Whatever you dwell on in the conscious grows in your experience.”
“Winners make a habit of manufacturing their own positive expectations in advance of the event. ”
“You can become an even more excellent person by constantly setting higher and higher standards for yourself and then by doing everything possible to live up to those standards. ”
“You cannot control what happens to you, but you can control your attitude toward what happens to you, and in that, you will be mastering change rather than allowing it to master you. ”
“You have to put in many, many, many tiny efforts that nobody sees or appreciates before you achieve anything worthwhile. ”
“You have within you right now, everything you need to deal with whatever the world can throw at you. “
We’ve all been there at some point in our life. Everything seems to be moving along smoothly when something suddenly happens; a challenge, a barrier, a crisis. These events can range anywhere from being mildly inconvenient to downright terrible and sometimes devastating. When situations like this arise, we all have ultimately one choice to make how we will choose to respond.
When you boil it down, that is really how our entire life unfolds. We are making a never ending series of choices about how we will interact with the events and circumstances surrounding us. Many of these choices occur unconsciously as part of our conditioned behaviour patterns. Understanding that we always retain the power and the right to make a conscious choice about our reactions is where we can transform challenges into opportunities.
Consider the idea of personal perception. Every person observes and interprets the world around them from a unique vantage point. I remember very clearly an incident about 5 years ago when I was having lunch on a restaurant patio with a few of my colleagues. The patio was next to a very busy street. About 20 minutes into our meal, we were all startled by a large crash followed by an excitable YELP sound. As I turned in my seat to examine the incident, we saw a new sports car t-boned by an older sedan. Fortunately, the collision had taken place at a relatively slow speed so there were no injuries, just two very upset drivers. The YELP sound had come from a tow truck driver who had been parked literally across the street. He was so excited that an accident had occurred right in front of his truck meaning he would be the first tow provider on the scene. Talk about drastically opposing perspectives! These two unfortunate drivers were caught up in a very unpleasant experience while the tow truck entrepreneur had his latest gig essentially fall into his lap.
What’s most interesting about this example is that it illustrates to me that the world around us simply exists, nothing more, nothing less. It is not until we apply our personal perception along with all of our expectations and beliefs, that events become positive or negative. Since we are creative by nature and always have 100% control over our thoughts, we can then choose to seek out the positives in life. When something happens to us that initially appears to be negative, we have an opportunity to reject our habitual reaction and create a new, more empowering belief about that event.
I have personally made a habit of this type of mentality and I continue to develop this capability with every passing day. I am becoming someone who can cherish the tough times. When adversity strikes, I am often able to control my attitude and remain focused on the positive rather than being consumed by the apparent misfortune. I then remind myself of Robert Collier’s quote, “In every adversity there lies the seed of an equivalent advantage.”
Dustin Carter is no stranger to adversity. We recently featured his YouTube video on the Ignite Your Essence website. Dustin was diagnosed with a rare blood disorder at age 5. The doctors were forced to amputate the majority of all of his limbs. Despite his obvious challenges, Dustin is now a top student wrestler working towards a full wrestling scholarship. He is a tremendous inspiration to everyone who meets him and he gives hope to others who may be facing physical challenges.
Many successful entrepreneurs have been able to transform challenging life situations into business building opportunities. One of the best examples of this is Robert Allen. His book, Nothing Down: How to Buy Real Estate with Little or No Money Down, went to the top of the New York Times Best-Seller list after a controversial ad he ran to promote it. In the ad, Allen claimed that you could take him to any city, take his wallet away, give him $100 and he could buy a piece of real estate. After Allen’s book had achieved great success, a reporter from the LA Times challenged his claim in the ad and called him a fraud. In order to prove himself, Allen was forced to take the challenge and prove he could actually achieve the feat. Not knowing if he would actually be able to pull it off, Robert Allen began to worry and realized that he would be professionally ruined if he was not able to deliver. In a formally arranged meeting, the reporter met Allen in San Francisco, took his wallet and gave him $100. With his name and credibility on the line, Allen took the $100 and purchased 7 properties worth $700,000 in a 57 hour window. Needless to say, he went on to achieve enormous success in his career.
How would your life change if you were able to transform a negative event into a positive experience? What kind of results could you produce if you learned to embrace adversity and treat it as an opportunity for growth? Regardless of the nature of the challenge you are facing, decide to become the kind of person who embodies this philosophy and you will most assuredly begin to produce incredible things in your life while providing inspiration to those around you!
Almost every person who has ever achieved their dream or a major life goal has, at some point, had to face fear. Fear is an inevitable component of personal growth. What’s most important to understand is that fear does not have to paralyze you or prevent you from experiencing the fullness of life.
Why must we face our fears?
In order to achieve anything new in life, we must be willing to change our actions so that we can produce new and improved results. But any time we introduce change into our life, we move out of our comfort zone and the by-product is typically some form of fear.
If we do not understand what fear is and why we experience it, our natural reaction would be to retreat from the new, uncomfortable change and revert back to our comfort zone. When this happens, many people become stuck.
If you want to liberate yourself from the shackles of fear and step into new and exciting places in your life, your journey must begin with awareness. You must become aware of what fear truly is so that you can identify it and ultimately move through it.
The first thing you should take into account is that fear is a reaction that the brain produces when it senses pending danger. It is actually a very beneficial emotion because it keeps us alive in a potentially dangerous situation. Unfortunately, over the years, we have been conditioned to associate fear with other, non-life threatening events.
For example, you may be driving along the highway when someone swerves and cuts you off. You quickly hit the brakes and avoid a collision. At the time of the incident, the physical sensations in your body could be extremely powerful (pounding heart, shaky hands, knees knocking, etc…). When it comes to personal fears, if you are afraid of public speaking, you may experience the exact same physical effects when you walk to the front of a board room to deliver a presentation.
What’s the difference? One situation could mean physical harm or even death. The other situation, at the VERY worst, would result in some short-lived embarrassment. While the two situations are poles apart in terms of consequence severity, our body reaction is almost identical!
So when you really boil it down, it is not so much the fear that stops people, it is the physical feelings produced by fear.
With this new awareness, you are now in a position to take bigger actions and play full out, in any area of your life. As Susan Jeffers points out in her best seller, you can “Feel the Fear and Do It Anyway.” Why? Because you understand exactly what is happening and you ACCEPT that is a completely normal reaction!
Don’t worry about eliminating fear, just focus on taking necessary actions towards your goals and dreams in SPITE of fear.
are literally trading the minutes, hours and days of your life in exchange for your current
activities. Most of us spend 40 (and often more) hours per week trading the precious moments of
our life for our job. Two questions immediately rise to the surface:
1. Do you consciously recognize and appreciate each day of your life with the awareness
that none of us know how much or how little time we have left?
2. If so, are you making a fair trade (i.e. are your activities worthy of your life energy)?
When I rst understood this lesson at both an intellectual and emotional level, my honest answer
to both of the above questions was NO! I was not necessarily taking my life for granted but I also
did not truly appreciate my days. I was devoting my time to a number of things that did not make
me happy and I was avoiding facing my fears. My mindset was I will deal with it at a better
time.’ Deep down I knew I was simply avoiding the issue altogether.
Speci cally, I am talking about my professional career. Although I was quite successful, had a
great salary, great security, excellent bene ts and room to grow in the organization, I did not
enjoy the work. I would start my day and look forward for it to be over. I did not work with any
passion. Worst of all, I was trading my life for this career.
Because this was the only profession I knew and spent many years establishing myself, it never
actually occurred to me that change was possible. I simply assumed that I would have to stick it
out and hopefully do well enough nancially so that I could retire early and THEN begin to
enjoy my days.
Then I got involved in personal development programs. I started to learn more about life and
more about the mind. I quickly realized that I had been operating my life following a set of
beliefs and paradigms that were not necessarily ideas that I agreed with. I had always assumed
that everyone disliked their job and it was just something we all had to go through to earn our
When I found out that there were many people who loved their work and had found a way to
make a living based on their passions, I was very intrigued. I was also wary of the idea because it
sounded too good to be true.
As I started to study some of these people and learn about the inspiring lives they were living, I
realized a very important distinction between them and myself. Unlike me at the time, they DID
appreciate the value of each living day and they also structured their life in such a way that they
were trading their days for a purpose worthy of them and their true values.
When I compared them to myself, I was trading the days of my life for something that made me
unhappy. When I dissected it further, I was choosing this lifestyle because I was too afraid to
change. I was afraid to give up the salary and bene ts, afraid to give up the position that took so
many years to obtain, afraid to admit to others that I was unhappy and afraid to decide what I
truly wanted out of life.
The more I thought about it and the more I studied personal development teachings and success
stories, the greater my desire for change became. I started to reprogram my mind so that the pain
of remaining status quo was actually more intense than the fear of change. I know many personal
growth programs advocate positive thinking, but negative motivators inspire action for all of us.
It certainly worked in my case.
Not only did this new mindset drive me to nd my true passion and true calling in life (speaking
and coaching), it helped me establish a sense of personal freedom that can best be described as
liberation. There came a point where my self image literally shifted and I saw myself safely and
con dently walking away from the career that I had so desperately held onto for many years.
The days of my life were far too important and valuable to be spending them doing something
that had no meaning for me. After I resigned from that position, I made a personal commitment
to dedicate the rest of my working days doing only that which I love.
I now love my work. I look forward to my days. I look forward to new projects and new
opportunities. I never think about retirement because I never plan on retiring. When you do what
you love, why would you ever want to stop?
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stories of people who are living their dream.
Every year that goes by, it seems as though our society is getting busier and busier. I hear comments from people in older generations saying that life was never this hectic when they were younger. With all of the advances in technology combined with the demands of family, career and so on, it is no wonder we live in such a “busy” culture.
Although the ongoing growth of technology has great benefits, it is sometimes hard to see how it also has negative implications. Specifically when it comes to time how we manage our time. Most people have advanced cell phones, laptops with internet connection, ipods, ipads, and a whole host of other electronic gadgets. Each one of these items serves a great purpose but also cause an enormous amount of distraction in our lives.
One thing I have been implementing in my life recently, that has been a huge benefit, is removing distractions. When you have a busy work load, the most important thing you can do is give yourself dedicated blocks of time to focus on completing it.
This means you remove interruptions like cell phones, email, browsing news or social media websites, (even traditional interruptions like chatty colleagues) etc… This way, you allow your mind to focus solely on the task at hand. For me, I do a lot of creative work that requires my concentration. I have found that I can accomplish more in one single 90 minute block of focussed work than I can in almost a full day of interrupted work.
I purposely remove myself from my distractions. I disconnect my internet connection, I turn off my phone, I even close any other programs that might be running on my computer. The only thing left for me to do is concentrate on the task at hand.
This can be applied in many situations both work related and otherwise. Any time you choose to remove focus from your main task at hand (i.e. multitasking), you are literally increasing your workload. The time it takes you to go back to your original job and get refocused ends up costing you a lot more time than it would have if you never allowed the interruption to happen.
If you are someone who considers themselves to be a good “multi-tasker”, take some time right to consider how many hours you are costing yourself each week by allowing your focus to move all over the place. It is very likely that you are spending more time than you need to complete many of your important work.
Once you do this analysis, make a commitment to focusing your energy on one major task at a time. You will be amazed at the results.