How to Achieve Effective Communication

myselfhelpdiary effective communicationIn spite of the numerous subjects taught at school, some of the important things that needed to be learnt in life are ignored. Modern education systems lack a curriculum that teaches effective communication.

Effective communication has an important role to our personal effectiveness in life. This is like jigsaw puzzle pieces joining up making the big picture, effective communication has so many different things like good relationship with the family and friends or the use of it in projects or for other stuffs.

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Busy Woman? Here are 10 Successful Goal Setting Tips

myselfhelpdiary woman goal setting tips1. Figure out what you want. This sound simple, but when did you last think about what you want? What do you want in your life, career, family, hobbies?

2. White down your goals. A recent study from Dominican University claims that those graduates who wrote down their goals accomplished them than those who did not. Our brain cannot track our demands and dreams. So go buy yourself a journal and write down all the things that you want to achieve.

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Make Your Dreams Into A Reality

dreams to realityLet us talk about goal setting in general. People should realize that they can get the things they dream about, think about, and wish for if they read this post and decide to do something.

Today, the world is full of instant gratification. More people do not want to go through the processes that are needed to achieve their goals. It is true that most people have goals. These goals are luring in their heads but no action is done. There are many reasons why no action is done but the main reason is they are not sure how to achieve it.

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What is Your End Goal?

What is your end goal?It’s easy to feel cut off from the rest of the world and to even feel a little out of sync from those around you. You work hard but maybe don’t feel like you are achieving all that you should. It might be that you haven’t defined your goals clearly in your own mind before starting out. Think about it, if you had to go on a long journey, would you do so in a haphazard way with no idea of how to get there? It’s unlikely, so why set out goals that are going to impact your life but that haven’t been thought through properly?

Goal setting is powerful and it’s vital if you wish to have a successful future. It might sound old hat, but you need to create stepping stones towards your end goals as otherwise it’s an almighty leap to get to where you wish to be.

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Goal setting

You need a 7 Day Brainwash“Goals are not only absolutely necessary to motivate us, they are essentially to really keep us alive.” Robert Schuller

Goal Setting and Goal Achieving is ultimately what characterizes the true winners in life. Unfortunately for some people, they have wonderful and exciting ideas for their life but it rarely goes further than the idea phase.

Having a Goal allows ANYONE to take an idea from the invisible plane of thought and begin the process of actualizing it in the real world.

In this lesson, we are going to focus on the process of goal setting. The subsequent lessons will help you with the actualization process of goal achieving.

So, how do you determine what your goals should be?

The easiest way to get going is to think about all of the various areas of your life where you place importance on improving your results. As an example, the most important areas of my life that I focus on for goal setting include Financial, Career, Family, Health/Fitness, Recreation/Free Time. There are no rules or restrictions when it comes to defining your own personal categories. The important part of the lesson is to look within and determine the areas of your life that you would like to focus on improving.

Note: You may already be very successful in a particular area of your life. This does NOT mean that you ignore goal setting here. In fact, it is just as important to focus on your goals in this area so that you move your mind into a mode of constant improvement’. There is ALWAYS room to grow! By universal law, if you are not growing and expanding, then you are fading away and dying. Choose NOW to always be moving in the direction of expansion

and fuller expression.

Goals are very much like a destination on the roadmap of your life. You are in charge of the direction you travel at ALL times. People with goals generally accomplish great things because they know where they are going.

An alarming observation is that according to recent statistics, fewer than 5% of the population have written goals for their life. This means that over 95% of the people are moving through life without a clear direction. So the obvious question for these folks is, “if you don’t know where you are going, how will you know when you get there?”

By learning this lesson, you automatically move yourself into the top 5% of high achievers.

Believe it’s possible

You need a 7 Day BrainwashYou need to believe that your desires will manifest into your life. This may sound simple but it can be a very difficult step for you. The main reason why you do not have all that you desire in your life right now is that on a subconscious level you feel that you don’t deserve it or it is impossible for you to get it. Even if you start reading your intentions, and giving out positive emotional energy, if you feel deep down that you don’t deserve it or it will never happen, you are unwittingly pushing it away.

The trouble is we are so used to feeling down day after day. Most people seem to exist in a semi depressed state, and it has become the norm to moan about our lives. Maybe you don’t have enough money and the bills keep pouring in through the letter box. Every time you look at your bank statement or open a bill, you feel more anxious or depressed about not having enough money. You don’t believe that it’s possible for you to have more money and don’t think you have the skills to become wealthy so you believe that you will always struggle financially. By thinking this way, you are cutting yourself off from ever becoming wealthy. You will be giving out negatively charged emotional thought vibrations which will attract more bills and debt to you and keep money away.

The idea that we have to think positively, and focus instead on thoughts and abundance seems alien to us- after all, how can we possibly feel positive when we are struggling to put food on the table? Changing your whole thought patterns is not easy, but with a little practice it can be done- and the rewards are immeasurable. It’s a little like learning to drive- During your first few lessons it seems so complicated you feel you will never get the hang of it. After a few weeks, however, you are going through the motions of driving almost automatically. It just takes time, practice and patience!

One good tip is to state your intentions in smaller steps. For example, if you state an intention to earn $1,000,000, whilst it could be attainable, your subconscious may not be able to comprehend this amount if you are currently earning, say, $15,000. Your beliefs may not think that this is possible and you may be subconsciously pushing this goal away as you will not believe that you can achieve it.

So take smaller steps. You can probably imagine earning, say, $30,000- this will feel much more achievable and you are likely to be able to imagine earning this amount. Once you are earning $30,000, it will be easier for you to imagine and believe that you can earn $75,000 so this will be your next intention. Your beliefs will change as you move up towards your original goal and help you to believe that you can attain it.

Similarly, to someone who weighs 400lbs, stating an intention to weigh 120lbs may seem impossible to them, especially if they have been heavy for years and have tried every diet program out there.

But the idea of weighing 50lb less may be more believable to them, and so their first intention may be to weigh 350lbs.

Once they have achieved this, they can set their next intention to weigh 300lbs- as the weight is lost slowly, their beliefs that they cannot attain a healthy weight for their height and build will gradually change.

Are you confident?

You need a 7 Day BrainwashSelf confidence is one of the most important skills you can develop in your life, if you really want to achieve everything you set out to do. Do you consider yourself to be a confident person?

Confidence is developed and strengthened over time. For example, a dentist who has been operating her practice for a decade knows that she can effectively perform any and every routine that her clients might require. There is no doubt in her mind that the procedure will be a success and her confidence is literally at a peak.

That same dentist at some point in her career had to learn each procedure for the first time. Despite the studying and prep work, her confidence simply could not have been as high as it would after many years of experience and it is very likely that she experienced fear, anxiety and a total lack of confidence in the beginning.

Today, while this experienced dentist can perform her work with the utmost confidence, she may suffer from a complete lack of confidence in other areas of her life; such as singing in front of an audience or meeting new people at a networking event.

That is why it is vitally important for every person to literally claim their self confidence in every area of life where it is required. This means that if you have a big goal you are shooting for, realize that your main path to achieving that goal lies directly in the amount of confidence you have in yourself to actually attain it.

Take two people starting at zero each with the intention of making a million dollars in business. The first person has never run a business and has never made anywhere near that amount of money. The second person has built and sold a previous company for a million dollars. Obviously the second person has a much better chance at success because he has the confidence that it can be done.

Does this mean the first person won’t be able to achieve the goal? Absolutely not. But he must systematically build and grow his confidence to a point where the million dollar goal is believable.

By simply setting the intention to develop your own self confidence and then working daily on strengthening it, you can drive yourself towards any goal that you want to achieve in your life.

Visualization Exercise

You need a 7 Day BrainwashIt’s important to have complete peace and quiet during your visualization, so lie down in a darkened room, unplug the phone and get comfortable.

As you need to relax, take a couple of deep breaths in and then breathe out slowly and gently, forgetting about any problems or self-doubts. Just enjoy the simple pleasure of breathing.

Once you feel relaxed and with eyes closed, try to visualize your ultimate goal. It’s important to be realistic though. If you just want to win the lottery, then that generalized vision isn’t going to be focussed enough. You need to apply intent and integrity and to conjure up the image of you actually achieving those goals. Being able to picture yourself is not always easy but regular practice will give you the all-important techniques.

If your mind starts to wonder and your focus waivers, then bring your mind gently back under control and keep thinking about your deepest desires.

This could be absolutely anything that you have ever wanted in life.

That fantastic new job?

Losing weight?

Getting that college degree?

Or perhaps that lovely villa in Spain?

The benefits of visualization are that you can conjure up any image at will and bring it to life. Make your visualization so powerful that you almost expect to see it materialize in front of you when you open your eyes. It might help you to hear the sounds instead or imagine yourself touching your goals, having it right there in front of you.

Once you have finished your visualization, you can open your eyes but retain that feeling of positivity and enjoy the sensation of connection that you had with your ultimate goal. Always remember how it felt to finally have everything that you want in life. Practice this technique at every opportunity and watch how it increases your motivation and desire to not only reach your goals but to exceed them.

Raise Your Energy Today

You need a 7 Day BrainwashSome people have a lot of internal drive and seem to be motivated all of the time. Other people struggle with their energy and enthusiasm levels and it becomes more difficult for these people to really get the most out of their days. Even the most driven person can experience down times and it is important to know how to pull yourself out of these kind of ruts.

Here are 4 powerful techniques that you can use to raise your energy and lift your spirits when you feel a lack of motivation.

Audio immersion. This is a technique that I have seen a number of people use in a variety of ways. The general idea is to combine inspirational music with some form of physical movement. As an example, you might want to find a song that really makes you come alive. A song that you like to sing along with. Turn the volume up a little. Then, as the song is playing, grab a pen and paper and begin writing down powerful statements to yourself.

You might write words like “I am energized”, “I have supreme confidence”, “I am incredibly productive”, “I have undying power” or any other statements that resonate with you. You can also shout these sayings out loud but I prefer the pen and paper method because you can’t always shout out loud, especially if other people are around you. This method is a sure fire way to increase your energy and motivation levels.

Positive and Negative Drivers. This technique involves analyzing very personal things about yourself that impact your emotions. The idea here is to list as many things as you can think of that cause you to feel drive. For example, you might have a goal of running a marathon but you have not had the drive or motivation to go on a run. You would rather lie on the couch.

In order to get yourself off of the couch, you would start by listing all of the positive things would result if you were to go for a run. This might include things like increased energy, happiness because you are proud of yourself, excitement of moving towards your marathon goal and of course contentment that you are preserving your health.

At the same time, you would also list all of your negative motivators. Things that might occur if you DON’T commit to your running goals. This might include things like self let-down for not sticking to your objectives, reduced energy or even proving your doubters to be right (this can be a huge one). When you combine the positive drives with the negative drivers, your energy and motivation levels can’t help but to be impacted and improved upon.

Comedy and Movement. This is a technique that I use all of the time and when I show other people, they really enjoy it. The idea is to combine the good feelings of comedy and laughter with the increased energy brought about by body movement.

There is no “right” way to do this so I will illustrate with an example. Go to youtube and search for a comedian or clips from a funny show that always makes your laugh. Even if your mood is really low at this point, simply watch the clip with no expectations for instant mood enhancement. You are simply observing at this point. Watch the clip twice if need be. Then, search for a second comedy clip and simply cue it up. Don’t play it yet.

After the first clip is finished, stand up, move your chair out of the way and do some kind of fast body movement. This can be anything that gets your heart pumping (leg raises, jumping jacks, shadow boxing, etc…). Do this for a minimum of one minute.

Once your mini exercise session is done, return to your computer and watch the second comedy clip. You will find your energy level rising and you will very likely have an easy time laughing at this clip. Repeat this process a few times if need be.

These 3 techniques may seem basic on the surface but can have a huge impact on your life. Experiment with them and see how it can improve your energy and motivation levels.

5 common mistakes people might make when using the law of attraction

You need a 7 Day Brainwash1. Believing that positive thinking is enough to attract what you want

Positive thinking occurs only on the conscious level; this is why positive thinking alone is not enough to be able to use the law of attraction. It is necessary for belief to enter the subconscious as well.

As we have seen earlier, the mind is always operating on two levels; the subconscious and the conscious. The conscious mind is being given hundreds of tidbits of information at any given time from all five senses. This is an incredible amount of information to process, even from such an advanced tool as the human brain. The mind would slowly go crazy if it had to deal with all of that information all of the time.

Instead, the mind developed the conscious mind, which serves as a filter to review the information sent to it by the senses and retain anything that it deems important. Anything that it does not deem important is passed along to the subconscious. It is the subconscious which will retain this information, acting as the guardian of repressed memories until such time as those memories are needed again.

It has long been held that the subconscious has a direct effect on the actions and beliefs of the conscious mind; if the conscious mind is attempting to think positive thoughts while the subconscious retains a negative energy the two will cancel each other out, and the desired effect will not be achieved.

2. Becoming impatient

The universe works at its own speed; remember, every action carries with it an equal and opposite reaction. Your desire will manifest in the universe’s timeframe rather than yours! It could even be that the universe knows that you are not yet ready to receive your desire.

This means that the law of attraction may take weeks, months or even years to bring about your desires. People of today’s society are spoiled; they want their desires right now. They expect instant results.

When they don’t manifest immediately, people then start to doubt; disbelieving in the law of attraction because it does not manifest your desires immediately is a direct violation of the guidelines required to see them manifested. If you were confident in its ability to deliver the desired results you would be content to sit and wait, knowing that what you want will come to you in time.

On the other hand, the fact that you are not indicates that you do not have confidence in its ability to bring about the desired results. This means that somewhere in your being is a small kernel of negative energy, sufficient to throw a monkey wrench into the whole process of manifestation. Remember, if you are vibrating negative energy you will attract negative energy back onto yourself.

3. Determining ahead of time how and when you will attract what you want

Let the universe do its work! It is possible to become so focused on what you think is going to happen that you manage to totally miss the event when it occurs if it does not occur in precisely the manner you pictured it would.

As we said before, the universe will choose its own time and place for all things to occur, and these events may take place through rather unusual means. By trying to plan exactly how you will receive the desire which you want you are taking away the choice from the universe. For example you may want to make $10,000 in sales and picture yourself talking to a prospect and closing the sale. This is in conflict with the law of attraction, as it is not possible to manifest your desires by attempting to manipulate another person into doing something, even buying from you. The correct way of manifesting this goal would be to focus on the $10,000 and what benefits this money would bring you, and leave the method of getting it to the universe.

Another thing to be aware of is by trying to plan too much yourself you are essentially saying that you don’t have faith in the ability of the law of attraction to deliver the desired results in time. By setting your own timeline for events to occur you will eventually come to disbelieve in the law of attraction (after all, it didn’t do what it was supposed to, did it?), which will cause your subconscious to radiate the negative energy which will drive the positive energy away.

4. Allowing your emotions to be led by external evidence

In order to reap the full benefits of the law of attraction you need to believe that what you see now is a result of what you have been attracting to this point; again, it is essential that you realize that what has occurred in your life to this date and what will happen later on is determined by you. Whatever successes or failures you have experienced have been the result of the thought energies that your mind and body have released out into the universe.

It is very easy to look at the events of your life and think, “I certainly didn’t want that to happen; the law of attraction must be untrue because I would never wish for something so awful.” What you have to realize is that it is not always what your conscious mind wishes for that influences what your subconscious mind is projecting.

This leads us to the fifth most common mistake;

5. Not removing limiting beliefs

There are many occasions in which people fall into a self defeating cycle because they are unable to control the thoughts and attitudes of their subconscious mind. A common argument against the law of attraction is, “Why is there so much suffering in the world if people have the ability to determine the events of their life?” These people have not chosen a life of starvation and servitude; however, due to their history many of them do not truly believe that they have any choice.

This disbelief in their ability to change their circumstances because “it is the way that it’s always been” means that they will continue to live this way. Their subconscious continues to project that disbelief and negative energy out into the universe, drawing back negative energy which will cause them to continue to live in this self destructive cycle of events.

It is those who have dared to dream, and believe in the possibilities presented by these dreams, who have effected the greatest changes in the world. If Henry Ford had not truly believed that man could ride in a car, do you think that the Model T could have been invented? If women really believed that they were destined to live the rest of their life under the thumb of their fathers and husbands, with no say in the lives they would lead, would women’s liberation have occurred?

The removal of limiting beliefs such as these is absolutely vital to the ability of the law of attraction to work as it is intended to. If you truly feel that the law of attraction is not working for you, take a moment to consider the things that you are wishing for. Do you truly believe that you can have them, or does a part of you feel that it’s impossible? Do you secretly believe that you don’t deserve to have them?

In order to project the positive vibes which are necessary to draw the energies of the universe to you it is essential that you are one hundred percent confident in your ability to effect a change and are willing to believe that all of the events occurring up to that point have been a necessary prerequisite to bringing these events to be.

The simple key to the law of attraction is the ACCEPTANCE of YOUR responsibility.

I wish you complete success in manifesting all you desire.