5 common mistakes people might make when using the law of attraction

You need a 7 Day Brainwash1. Believing that positive thinking is enough to attract what you want

Positive thinking occurs only on the conscious level; this is why positive thinking alone is not enough to be able to use the law of attraction. It is necessary for belief to enter the subconscious as well.

As we have seen earlier, the mind is always operating on two levels; the subconscious and the conscious. The conscious mind is being given hundreds of tidbits of information at any given time from all five senses. This is an incredible amount of information to process, even from such an advanced tool as the human brain. The mind would slowly go crazy if it had to deal with all of that information all of the time.

Instead, the mind developed the conscious mind, which serves as a filter to review the information sent to it by the senses and retain anything that it deems important. Anything that it does not deem important is passed along to the subconscious. It is the subconscious which will retain this information, acting as the guardian of repressed memories until such time as those memories are needed again.

It has long been held that the subconscious has a direct effect on the actions and beliefs of the conscious mind; if the conscious mind is attempting to think positive thoughts while the subconscious retains a negative energy the two will cancel each other out, and the desired effect will not be achieved.

2. Becoming impatient

The universe works at its own speed; remember, every action carries with it an equal and opposite reaction. Your desire will manifest in the universe’s timeframe rather than yours! It could even be that the universe knows that you are not yet ready to receive your desire.

This means that the law of attraction may take weeks, months or even years to bring about your desires. People of today’s society are spoiled; they want their desires right now. They expect instant results.

When they don’t manifest immediately, people then start to doubt; disbelieving in the law of attraction because it does not manifest your desires immediately is a direct violation of the guidelines required to see them manifested. If you were confident in its ability to deliver the desired results you would be content to sit and wait, knowing that what you want will come to you in time.

On the other hand, the fact that you are not indicates that you do not have confidence in its ability to bring about the desired results. This means that somewhere in your being is a small kernel of negative energy, sufficient to throw a monkey wrench into the whole process of manifestation. Remember, if you are vibrating negative energy you will attract negative energy back onto yourself.

3. Determining ahead of time how and when you will attract what you want

Let the universe do its work! It is possible to become so focused on what you think is going to happen that you manage to totally miss the event when it occurs if it does not occur in precisely the manner you pictured it would.

As we said before, the universe will choose its own time and place for all things to occur, and these events may take place through rather unusual means. By trying to plan exactly how you will receive the desire which you want you are taking away the choice from the universe. For example you may want to make $10,000 in sales and picture yourself talking to a prospect and closing the sale. This is in conflict with the law of attraction, as it is not possible to manifest your desires by attempting to manipulate another person into doing something, even buying from you. The correct way of manifesting this goal would be to focus on the $10,000 and what benefits this money would bring you, and leave the method of getting it to the universe.

Another thing to be aware of is by trying to plan too much yourself you are essentially saying that you don’t have faith in the ability of the law of attraction to deliver the desired results in time. By setting your own timeline for events to occur you will eventually come to disbelieve in the law of attraction (after all, it didn’t do what it was supposed to, did it?), which will cause your subconscious to radiate the negative energy which will drive the positive energy away.

4. Allowing your emotions to be led by external evidence

In order to reap the full benefits of the law of attraction you need to believe that what you see now is a result of what you have been attracting to this point; again, it is essential that you realize that what has occurred in your life to this date and what will happen later on is determined by you. Whatever successes or failures you have experienced have been the result of the thought energies that your mind and body have released out into the universe.

It is very easy to look at the events of your life and think, “I certainly didn’t want that to happen; the law of attraction must be untrue because I would never wish for something so awful.” What you have to realize is that it is not always what your conscious mind wishes for that influences what your subconscious mind is projecting.

This leads us to the fifth most common mistake;

5. Not removing limiting beliefs

There are many occasions in which people fall into a self defeating cycle because they are unable to control the thoughts and attitudes of their subconscious mind. A common argument against the law of attraction is, “Why is there so much suffering in the world if people have the ability to determine the events of their life?” These people have not chosen a life of starvation and servitude; however, due to their history many of them do not truly believe that they have any choice.

This disbelief in their ability to change their circumstances because “it is the way that it’s always been” means that they will continue to live this way. Their subconscious continues to project that disbelief and negative energy out into the universe, drawing back negative energy which will cause them to continue to live in this self destructive cycle of events.

It is those who have dared to dream, and believe in the possibilities presented by these dreams, who have effected the greatest changes in the world. If Henry Ford had not truly believed that man could ride in a car, do you think that the Model T could have been invented? If women really believed that they were destined to live the rest of their life under the thumb of their fathers and husbands, with no say in the lives they would lead, would women’s liberation have occurred?

The removal of limiting beliefs such as these is absolutely vital to the ability of the law of attraction to work as it is intended to. If you truly feel that the law of attraction is not working for you, take a moment to consider the things that you are wishing for. Do you truly believe that you can have them, or does a part of you feel that it’s impossible? Do you secretly believe that you don’t deserve to have them?

In order to project the positive vibes which are necessary to draw the energies of the universe to you it is essential that you are one hundred percent confident in your ability to effect a change and are willing to believe that all of the events occurring up to that point have been a necessary prerequisite to bringing these events to be.

The simple key to the law of attraction is the ACCEPTANCE of YOUR responsibility.

I wish you complete success in manifesting all you desire.

25 motivational quotes from Brian Tracy

You need a 7 Day Brainwash“All successful people men and women are big dreamers. They imagine what their future could be, ideal in every respect, and then they work every day toward their distant vision, that goal or purpose. ”

“Communication is a skill that you can learn. It’s like riding a bicycle or typing. If you’re willing to work at it, you can rapidly improve the quality of every part of your life. ”

“Decisiveness is a characteristic of high-performing men and women. Almost any decision is better than no decision at all. ”

“Develop an attitude of gratitude, and give thanks for everything that happens to you, knowing that every step forward is a step toward achieving something bigger and better than your current situation. ”

“Goals allow you to control the direction of change in your favor.”

“I’ve found that luck is quite predictable. If you want more luck, take more chances. Be more active. Show up more often. ”

“If what you are doing is not moving you towards your goals, then it’s moving you away from your goals. ”

“If you raise your children to feel that they can accomplish any goal or task they decide upon, you will have succeeded as a parent and you will have given your children the greatest of all blessings. ”

“If you wish to achieve worthwhile things in your personal and career life, you must become a worthwhile person in your own self- development. ”

“It doesn’t matter where you are coming from. All that matters is where you are going. ”

“Just as your car runs more smoothly and requires less energy to go faster and farther when the wheels are in perfect alignment, you

perform better when your thoughts, feelings, emotions, goals, and values are in balance. ”

“Move out of your comfort zone. You can only grow if you are willing to feel awkward and uncomfortable when you try something new. ”

“Never say anything about yourself you do not want to come true.”

“Only by contending with challenges that seem to be beyond your strength to handle at the moment you can grow more surely toward the stars. ”

“People with clear, written goals, accomplish far more in a shorter period of time than people without them could ever imagine. ”

“Successful people are always looking for opportunities to help others. Unsuccessful people are always asking, “What’s in it for me?” ”

“Successful people are simply those with successful habits.”

“Teamwork is so important that it is virtually impossible for you to reach the heights of your capabilities or make the money that you want without becoming very good at it. ”

“The happiest people in the world are those who feel absolutely terrific about themselves, and this is the natural outgrowth of accepting total responsibility for every part of their life. ”

“Whatever you dwell on in the conscious grows in your experience.”

“Winners make a habit of manufacturing their own positive expectations in advance of the event. ”

“You can become an even more excellent person by constantly setting higher and higher standards for yourself and then by doing everything possible to live up to those standards. ”

“You cannot control what happens to you, but you can control your attitude toward what happens to you, and in that, you will be mastering change rather than allowing it to master you. ”

“You have to put in many, many, many tiny efforts that nobody sees or appreciates before you achieve anything worthwhile. ”

“You have within you right now, everything you need to deal with whatever the world can throw at you. “

Share Your Goals for Success

You need a 7 Day BrainwashMost people have a laundry list of ideas, goals, dreams and aspirations for their life. There are so many things they want to do but life gets in the way. The days, months and years pass by and many of those ideas never see the light of day.

There is a little technique you can use, if you have the courage, that will almost guarantee the achievement of big goals and dreams. It is based on the idea of “social pressure”.

Think about this; let’s say you have a goal to lose a certain amount of weight or achieve some desired level of fitness. You can set the goal privately and tell yourself, “I am going to achieve this goal by August 1.” On the other hand, you can make the goal public by telling all of your friends and family what you intend to do and even give a date for your desired completion.

As soon as you take that goal public, you move into a different state of mind. No longer are you at the mercy of your own self-discipline (which has been tarnished by years of bad habits). Now you have a much more powerful force dictating your day to day actions and decisions.

Is this method too aggressive?

Perhaps you’re thinking, what if I declare this goal to everyone and then fail to achieve it? It is a valid concern but let’s look at it in more detail.

If you set your goal, tell everyone about it and work hard towards the goal, only to fall a bit short, you are still in a better position than you were before setting the goal. Your results will have improved to some degree. You can move forward and set new goals from there.

However, if you set the goal, tell everyone about it and then take no action towards the goal, you have now put yourself in an embarrassing position. In my opinion, I think the pain of an event like that might be just the fuel you need to motivate yourself into action the next time around.

If the goal or dream you are aspiring for is important enough to you, I think this exercise would be extremely valuable to you and your life.

So how do you apply this to your life? Start by grabbing a pen and paper and simply brainstorm all of the things you would like to accomplish. Have fun with it and let your mind wander. Then, look at the most time sensitive goals. For example, the goal of becoming an expert guitar player may take years while the goal of quitting smoking can happen in a matter of days or weeks.

Pick a short term goal, set a date, declare the goal publicly and start working on it. You’ll be amazed at what happens!

Use competition to push you

You need a 7 Day BrainwashI don’t know about you but when I am put in a position where I’m competing against one or more people, my motivation shoots up to a whole new level. I have talked to many others who experience the same.

When you compete against someone, in any area of life, you setup 2 incredibly powerful forces.

The first is the desire to be triumphant. Imagine the excitement someone must feel when they win a gold medal in the Olympics. They have achieved a personal dream and they get a flood of recognition from friends, family, media, fans and ultimately their entire country. What person would not love this kind of validation of success? The same kind of triumph can be experienced (maybe not at the same level of intensity) when you win a competition that you have been involved in, no matter how small it may be.

The second (and more powerful) force that gets created in competition is the desire to avoid defeat. Most humans instinctively associate any form of loss with pain and in most cases, will do anything necessary to avoid that pain. If you enter some kind of competition that will help drive you towards your goals, this pain avoidance force may be the deciding factor in your success.

Use competitive scenarios to drive you forward but remember to detach from the outcome. If you happen to lose your competition, don’t get down in the dumps. Focus on what positives came out of it (usually a drastic increase in results) and continue moving towards your goals.

How to find motivation

You need a 7 Day BrainwashLearning what makes you tick on an individual level is so important. Once you have found the elixir of motivation, it makes sense to tap into it and to give yourself a kick-start if you start flagging.

You can start learning about yourself just through understanding what your biggest achievement has been to date and how you came to reach it.

Think long and hard about the following questions and take time to write down full-answers in response. Be honest with yourself when answering these questions-you may surprise yourself.

1. What is your biggest achievement to date?

2. How did you achieve your success?

3. During the process, what kept you going to the end goal?

4. How were you motivated?

5. How much did the end goal mean to you?

Once you have answered the questions, sit quietly and contemplate back to that time when you experienced that joyous sense of achievement.

Remember that people are motivated by very different things and what motivates one may not motivate another but your inner-most dreams have probably changed little and will have remained fairly constant throughout. What often happens is that people give up on these hopes and instead settle for something much less simply because it is easier and quicker.

The true dream, your true destiny may have taken a lot of hard work and patience and therefore was abandoned. This knowledge of taking the easy route may be an issue for you today.

From the following list, write down any that connects with your feelings:

-Do you seek recognition from others?

-Do you strive to make life better for your family?

-Do you need to prove to yourself that you can be someone important or achieve all of your goals for personal satisfaction?

-Do you feel that it’s important to do the right thing in life?

-Do you strive to increase your financial income?

-Do you have a passion in life and find it all-consuming?

-Was your childhood difficult and do you wish to ensure that your adult life is vastly improved?

-Is it important for you to take charge of your life and do something that matters?

-Do you need variety in life so embrace any changes?

-Does seeing your goals written down in black and white increase your determination to succeed?

You may find that several relate to how you feel personally so make a note of them and pin them up where you can see them so that they are a constant reminder of how you really feel.

Develop Your Mind

You need a 7 Day Brainwash“What we are today comes from our thoughts of yesterday and our present thoughts build our life tomorrow. Our life is the creation of our mind.”

Siddhartha Buddha

When I say, “develop the mind”, I am really talking about reaching an elevated level of understanding regarding the connection between your mind, your body and the results in your life.

An important distinction to make before we discuss the mind any further is that our mind is simply a part’ of us. Too often, people identify themselves as their mind when, in truth, our mind is another part of our being much like our arms or legs. Even more importantly, WE have the ability to CONTROL our mind by choosing our THOUGHTS.

That’s right! We choose our thoughts whether we realize it or not. Unfortunately, many people are in the habit of choosing negative thoughts without even realizing they are doing so. For example, if you have lived your whole life believing that another person’s opinion is more important than your own, then you would have accepted any negative criticism as the truth regardless of whether it served you or not. In fact, someone’s negative comment may have actually caused you to abandon your dream.

Unless you learned how to CHOOSE new thoughts regarding other people’s opinions, you would never be able to change these results. If you would like to learn more, read the article entitled, “Self-Talk. How Thoughts Affect Feelings” by Jerry Waxler.

The empowering realization is that your ability to choose thoughts is ALWAYS available to you. You have the power to habituate new thought patterns (beliefs) that support your passions and goals in life.

Habituating this new way of thinking is not something that will happen overnight. Like any other habit, it takes consistency and repetition.

Practice Persistence

You need a 7 Day Brainwash“Nothing in this world can take the place of persistence. Talent will not; nothing is more common than unsuccessful people with talent. Genius will not; genius is almost a proverb. Education will not; the world is full of educated derelicts. Persistence and determination alone are omnipotent. The slogan “press on” has solved and always will solve the problems of the human race.”

Calvin Coolidge

Most people already know that a great deal of persistence is required to reach any goal of major significance whether it be business related, financial or even athletic (just check out the regimen of an Olympian…they breathe persistence). When you have a DMP (Definite Major Purpose) that has been designed around your core passions in life, persistence becomes less of an effort’ and more of a natural state of being.

I mean, if you are working on a really big goal that is completely aligned with your passions and values, you are going to have no problem going back to work, day after day, until your dream has been realized.

On the flip side of the coin, if you are working on a goal to please someone else or for some other superficial reason, your ability to persist and see that goal through to completion can become incredibly burdensome and even downright depressing.

Enough about depressing goals, you are here because you are excited about life and excited about your goals and dreams… so let’s continue.

If you think back to the previous lesson we talked about the idea of interrupting the pattern of self-limiting thinking and replacing it with new, empowering thoughts. While thinking a new thought may seem natural in a moment of inspiration, your negative thought patterns have been developing themselves year after year and have buried themselves firmly within your subconscious mind.

You are likely going to experience your mind wanting to revert back to this state. In order to ensure you overcome this trap, consider the following idea…

Through the act of persistence, you can begin to monitor your REACTIONS towards life as you go about your day-to-day experience. Your REACTIONS are a direct translation of the type of thoughts you are focusing on. If your reactions are moving you away from your goal, you now have the opportunity to use your personal perception to see the situation in a new light, and ultimately change your reaction to the event.

For example, let’s say you suffered an accident and tore your shoulder in the process. Perhaps your natural reaction would be to feel sorry for yourself and complain about your bad luck and all of the activities you will be missing as a result of the injury. Using your PERCEPTION, you could look at the situation with an opportunistic attitude and ask yourself, “Can I learn from this?” Or you might even ask, “How can I overcome this injury and use my recovery to inspire/ teach others to do the same?” (There is actually a guy on the internet who did this and turned his misfortune…into a FORTUNE!!)

Repeat this new way of thinking over and over again and the result is a new habit. As we all know, habits are tough to break and ultimately, our habits run our life. Let’s get the good habits working for us!

Are you a procrastinator?

You need a 7 Day BrainwashAre you your own worst enemy? Do you find that you waste precious time when really you know that you should be getting on with any important tasks? Do you feel guilty when you finish way behind schedule or perhaps fail to finish at all?

Whilst you are not the only one to procrastinate in life, it’s a negative aspect that has to be corrected if you are truly to complete your goals in life. Worse, procrastination can easily lead to feelings of depression and worthlessness therefore becoming a vicious circle of time-wasting and reducing your chances of success.

Sometimes, just starting any tasks can be the hardest element to overcome but in order to change behaviours that might have been established for a long time, you need to force yourself to get stuck in and get on with anything on that all-important list.

If procrastination is your secret deadly enemy, then consider adopting some of the following:

-Improve your time management by compiling daily to-do lists if you don’t do so already. Write down everything that needs to be completed that day and then mark them in order of priority. Where possible, write your to-do list the night before so that you know exactly what needs to be done first thing.

-Set your alarm so that you get up earlier. Procrastinating first thing in the morning can lose you hours and then you are always playing catch up. An extra hour can make a great deal of difference plus it starts you off on a positive note.

-Watch less TV. You may be surprised by how much time is really wasted through casual absorption of any favoured TV programmes. Make a note of all the programmes that you really want to watch (or record) and then aim to finish all of your tasks before the first important programme comes on. This way you are more likely to focus on completing those tasks as you have something good to aim for.

-It’s easy to fall foul to lazy days but everyone is entitled to a little self-indulgent time, just don’t waste your time completely, instead focus on your end goal and visualize how good you are going to feel once you have achieved your dreams. If you are a visual person, this can really help you to breathe life into your goals and to help it become a tangible reality.

Motivate Yourself For Success

You need a 7 Day BrainwashDid you see the Beijing Olympics, the World Cup Soccer or Wimbledon this year? Rarely are we privileged to witness such triumph and human spirit at its absolute best.

How did all those athletes get motivated, especially the gold medalists and the winners?

Was it the thought of the gold medal itself that kept them running, jumping, swimming or facing whatever feat of endurance that will write them into the history books?

Well, perhaps. But we know that what we saw them all do was the end of very, very long journeys for those incredibly motivated men and women.

Along the way, most of them will have faced failures, challenges such as injuries or changes in their personal lives, and there will for many of them I am sure, have been times when they lost heart and just believed they could not succeed.

We all know this. Most of us don’t even aspire to be Olympic athletes, but we each do have our dreams – for our businesses, our families, our relationships and ourselves.

Who wants to write a novel? Who’d like to perform their own song or play? Who wants to be a millionaire?

The journeys to dreams are rarely straightforward or without challenge. If they were, they’d hardly be worth having. The glory of an Olympic gold medal is precisely because it’s extraordinarily difficult to earn one. If they were handed out like candy at a kids birthday party, no one would have the slightest interest in a gold medal or gold medallist!

However, the biggest challenge isn’t with the feat of endurance – it’s with your own mind. You have to believe that you can do whatever it is, and in those moments when doubt creeps in, at those dark times when you lose heart, you have to know how to get back on track – fast!

Your coach, if you have one, can be a great help. Family and friends will rally round to support you. But ultimately it’s down to you. If you keep shaking your head saying, “I can’t do it. I can’t, I can’t,” eventually even your coach will leave you behind – and they’ll find someone else who believes they can!

Masters of Success know this. They know how to recognize the signs and symptoms of self doubt. More than that, they know how re-ignite the flame of desire for the goal, and fan that flame into a fervour that drives them – with passion – to keep going. That flame eventually becomes their personal blaze of glory.

Stay motivated. It sounds simple, but unless you know how to follow that instruction, it’s as daft as saying to someone who’s stressed, “Try to relax.” (What do you suppose they’ve been doing?)

Success comes from within. Motivation is a major component of any kind of success.

Going for gold?

See you at the top!