Self Help – Dealing With Monophobia

Dealing With Monophobia

Do you fear of being alone? If yes, then you have a condition. The fear of being alone is known as Monophobia, and this is a very detrimental condition. If you are suffering from this condition, then there are a lot of self help options available and a lot of individuals were able to do it themselves. Conquering Monophobia is like conquering most fears. It is just a matter of making yourself less sensitive. In the following paragraphs, you will learn how to deal with this kind of ailment.

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When Times Get Tough

You need a 7 Day BrainwashWe’ve all been there at some point in our life. Everything seems to be moving along smoothly when something suddenly happens; a challenge, a barrier, a crisis. These events can range anywhere from being mildly inconvenient to downright terrible and sometimes devastating. When situations like this arise, we all have ultimately one choice to make how we will choose to respond.

When you boil it down, that is really how our entire life unfolds. We are making a never ending series of choices about how we will interact with the events and circumstances surrounding us. Many of these choices occur unconsciously as part of our conditioned behaviour patterns. Understanding that we always retain the power and the right to make a conscious choice about our reactions is where we can transform challenges into opportunities.

Consider the idea of personal perception. Every person observes and interprets the world around them from a unique vantage point. I remember very clearly an incident about 5 years ago when I was having lunch on a restaurant patio with a few of my colleagues. The patio was next to a very busy street. About 20 minutes into our meal, we were all startled by a large crash followed by an excitable YELP sound. As I turned in my seat to examine the incident, we saw a new sports car t-boned by an older sedan. Fortunately, the collision had taken place at a relatively slow speed so there were no injuries, just two very upset drivers. The YELP sound had come from a tow truck driver who had been parked literally across the street. He was so excited that an accident had occurred right in front of his truck meaning he would be the first tow provider on the scene. Talk about drastically opposing perspectives! These two unfortunate drivers were caught up in a very unpleasant experience while the tow truck entrepreneur had his latest gig essentially fall into his lap.

What’s most interesting about this example is that it illustrates to me that the world around us simply exists, nothing more, nothing less. It is not until we apply our personal perception along with all of our expectations and beliefs, that events become positive or negative. Since we are creative by nature and always have 100% control over our thoughts, we can then choose to seek out the positives in life. When something happens to us that initially appears to be negative, we have an opportunity to reject our habitual reaction and create a new, more empowering belief about that event.

I have personally made a habit of this type of mentality and I continue to develop this capability with every passing day. I am becoming someone who can cherish the tough times. When adversity strikes, I am often able to control my attitude and remain focused on the positive rather than being consumed by the apparent misfortune. I then remind myself of Robert Collier’s quote, “In every adversity there lies the seed of an equivalent advantage.”

Dustin Carter is no stranger to adversity. We recently featured his YouTube video on the Ignite Your Essence website. Dustin was diagnosed with a rare blood disorder at age 5. The doctors were forced to amputate the majority of all of his limbs. Despite his obvious challenges, Dustin is now a top student wrestler working towards a full wrestling scholarship. He is a tremendous inspiration to everyone who meets him and he gives hope to others who may be facing physical challenges.

Many successful entrepreneurs have been able to transform challenging life situations into business building opportunities. One of the best examples of this is Robert Allen. His book, Nothing Down: How to Buy Real Estate with Little or No Money Down, went to the top of the New York Times Best-Seller list after a controversial ad he ran to promote it. In the ad, Allen claimed that you could take him to any city, take his wallet away, give him $100 and he could buy a piece of real estate. After Allen’s book had achieved great success, a reporter from the LA Times challenged his claim in the ad and called him a fraud. In order to prove himself, Allen was forced to take the challenge and prove he could actually achieve the feat. Not knowing if he would actually be able to pull it off, Robert Allen began to worry and realized that he would be professionally ruined if he was not able to deliver. In a formally arranged meeting, the reporter met Allen in San Francisco, took his wallet and gave him $100. With his name and credibility on the line, Allen took the $100 and purchased 7 properties worth $700,000 in a 57 hour window. Needless to say, he went on to achieve enormous success in his career.

How would your life change if you were able to transform a negative event into a positive experience? What kind of results could you produce if you learned to embrace adversity and treat it as an opportunity for growth? Regardless of the nature of the challenge you are facing, decide to become the kind of person who embodies this philosophy and you will most assuredly begin to produce incredible things in your life while providing inspiration to those around you!

20 Months To A Million

You need a 7 Day BrainwashBeing the owner of multiple businesses, I am always conscious of my money from both a personal and professional perspective. Our lives are very much intertwined and often controlled by our ability to manage, save and spend our money. I was recently reminded of a great concept that I learned about when I was a teenager.

If a person were to take one dollar, invest the dollar in an asset and then sell the asset for two dollars, they will have taken the first step in a 20 month process of accumulating a million dollars. The only habit that would need to be created is the habit of doubling the amount in hand every month for 20 months. The final amount at the end of each month would be:

Start – $1

Month 1 – $2

Month 2 – $4

Month 3 – $8

Month 4 – $16

Month 5 – $32

Month 6 – $64

Month 7 – $128

Month 8 – $256

Month 9 – $512

Month 10 – $1024

Month 11 – $2048

Month 12 – $4096

Month 13 – $8192

Month 14 – $16384

Month 15 – $32768

Month 16 – $65536

Month 17 – $131072

Month 18 – $262144

Month 19 – $524288

Month 20 – $1048576

Obviously the model is very simple and the idea is basic enough for anyone to grasp, however, I would like to expand on the underlying psychology of this concept. Let’s imagine that we were going to make a committed decision to implement this model in our own personal financial lives and we could not skip any steps or take any shortcuts. By the end of the first year, we will have accumulated only $4096. This means that in the next 8 months, we will have to amass $995,904 more than we currently have to reach the one million dollar level.

At this point, this imaginary experiment becomes more of a fairy tale or daydream to the average person. But let’s think about our minds and the power of focus. For the first 12 months of the experiment, we were making a monthly habit of acquiring assets (likely devalued assets) and selling them at a higher price point. As each month went by, we were forced to become more creative and innovative with our investments as the challenge of each amount grew larger. Assuming we were successful for the first 12 months, the challenge on month 13 would be to double $4096 to $8192. After an entire year of practicing with small amounts and getting into this habit, the only real change required would be to adjust our perception of the size of the investment. There are plenty of people in the world who have had success doubling large sums of money in short periods of time (business acquisitions, real estate and currency trading to name just a few). The average person may not understand how to do it but they most certainly could learn if they were to focus their mind and their attention on the task and do whatever it takes to learn the required skill.

I once heard T. Harv Eker use the extreme example that if there was a life or death situation and your life depended on you making a million dollars in one year, you could figure out a way to do it. I completely agree. The point I am trying to make is that I truly believe we are all capable of achieving a goal like this if the stakes are high enough. Why then, do so few people ever try to achieve such a major goal? Why do so many people reject the idea before giving any serious thought to it? There are probably a number of reasons, but from my perspective, the primary reason a person would never even attempt a goal like this is because in their heart, they don’t believe they can do it. If they did believe they could achieve the goal, would they not be actively working on it? Of course they would.

With that in mind we can begin to understand the powerful role that beliefs play in our lives. From the standpoint of our minds, a psychologist would say that a belief is nothing more than an idea that we have consciously accepted as true and ingrained as part of our subconscious conditioning. So if we are holding on to beliefs that limit us and keep us from taking action on a life changing idea, with the proper awareness, we can make the conscious decision to formulate a new belief that supports us in our big life goals.

I think it is both healthy and wise for every person to take time out regularly to examine their habits of thought. Since this article is centred around the idea of financial goals and money, I would encourage you to step back and review your personal thought processes when you were introduced to the idea of ’20 Months to One Million’. If you rejected the idea as something that was unrealistic or out of your level of capability, take some time to examine the belief you are holding that is causing you to reject the idea. What other limiting beliefs have crept into your mind that are no longer serving you? Can you replace those beliefs with a more empowering and gratifying thought pattern?

You Want An Easy Way To Attract Money? Discover How To Become Wealthy From Within

You need a 7 Day BrainwashThe “holy grail” of the law of attraction would surely be to find an easy way of attracting money. Ever since the end of bartering, people have searched for some simple steps to become rich. A little research – by which I mean using myself as a guinea pig – has led me to discover that there is such a way and that all those who use it have three things in common.

In short, these are:

1. Belief without doubt.

2. A sense of worthiness.

3. The willingness to take inspired action.

Before I explain those, however, we must define “easy.” I have seen fire eaters who make their act look easy, but I’m extremely certain that it isn’t, so I won’t be trying that anytime soon. Could we agree that “easy” means a way of attracting wealth which feels enjoyable, works consistently well and is fast? It’s not exactly science, but then when it comes to attracting money, it’s not a science anyway, is it?

Of the three elements which comprise our easy way to attract money, none is more or less important than the other. You must have all three in place, and when you do, you will attract money – easily!

The first element is belief. You must believe that you have the ability to attract money. That sounds obvious, but in fact a lot of people who say they believe they could attract money fill their minds with doubts and misgivings by checking how the majority of their friends and peers are doing financially. Instead, they go back to their personal treadmill, shaking their heads and saying it can’t be done.

The second element in our easy way to attract money is your sense of worthiness. You have to know in your heart that you deserve more money. In order to do that, you’ll need to honour your uniqueness and feel deep within you that you have something of value to contribute just by being you! The more you can value yourself in your mind, the more you’ll be able to “sell” your passion – which in the end is what people pay for.

The third, and by no means least, of our elements is to take action. Although I said that all three are required to complete the formula for the easy way to attract money, there is a reason why I’ve left this one until last. We’re conditioned to think that a lot of activity – usually labelled “hard work” – is what’s needed to get money, which we call “earning” it.

On the other hand, there’s a terrible misunderstanding about the “law of attraction” which is that merely visualising wealth will bring it to you. In fact, you must take action too – but that action needs to be inspired by the belief and the sense of worthiness I’ve mentioned above. The key to the easy way to attract money is to feel good about yourself, know that you’re worthwhile, and then act on the ideas that pop up – which is sometimes called “inspiration.”

If feeling good, liking yourself and trusting your heart feels like hard work to you then I’m sorry for misleading you. On the other hand, if you like these ideas, then you have finally stumbled on an easy way to attract money!

The “Need” to be Right

You need a 7 Day BrainwashOur world is full of variety. On any given day we can have both positive and negative experiences. Many of these experiences ultimately influence the way we see the world and the opinions we form about how the world works.

Everyone lives in the context of their own perspective. While one person may look at a snow storm and be excited about the possibilities to get out and have fun, another person might be full of fear because they had previously been involved in a driving accident caused by dangerous winter driving conditions.

The events and circumstances are neutral. Our opinions about them are not!

Since we all have our own way of seeing the world, conflict with family, friends, colleagues, etc… is inevitable. There is absolutely no way that you are going to process every event in the same way as the people in your life. When these conflicts and differences of opinion arise, are you prepared to deal with them?

While I do believe that a good debate can often lead to effective solutions of problems, many debates can turn sour and become more toxic than helpful. When this happens, it is important to recognize that the situation will likely end in a stale mate and that you don’t “need” to be right.

The “need to be right” can be harmful to your health. If you spend all of your focus and energy trying desperately to convince someone else that your perspective is the correct one, you are creating a huge amount of unneeded stress in your life. If you go into this mode of “needing to be right”, you should take a step back and ask yourself why. Why do I need to be right? Why do I need this other person to accept my way of thinking so badly?

This ultimately comes down to self esteem. If you believe in your heart that a certain perspective is 100% true, there is absolutely no need to force anyone else to agree with you. The sooner you can embrace this, the sooner you will reduce stress and create more happiness in your life.

Embrace the idea of not “needing to be right”. If someone is taking an aggressive stance with you and trying to force an opinion on you that you do not agree with, let it go! Let them be right in their head and you can confidently carry your own truth in your heart.

Practice a new response

You need a 7 Day BrainwashSince we were kids, all of us have understood the value of practice. If you want to get good at hockey, reading, piano, singing, or any other engaged activity, you have to practice.

Practice is defined as the application of a skill repeatedly or regularly in order to improve or maintain one’s proficiency. I think most people would agree that the highest achievers in an area of life are those who practice the most.

How does this apply to our every day lives?

If you think about your overall quality of life, it is basically made up by the accumulation of moments. Each moment you are expending energy in a certain way. Sometimes you are in a positive state and other times you are negative; and there a varying degrees of intensity in between.

Most of the time, we are all operating on auto-pilot. What I mean is that we are going about our day and we react and respond to events based on how we have conditioned ourselves to do so. If we have spent the majority of our lives practicing an anger response when things don’t go our way, we have become very proficient at being angry. Likewise, if you have spent the majority of your life reacting with laughter to various events and circumstances, you have become proficient at maintaining positivity.

This is a great place for any person to begin when it comes to improving their life so that it works… on all levels.

How do you do this?

Start by doing a basic assessment of your results. Are you constantly in a state of stress or anxiety? Do you constantly feel frustrated or upset? For any result that is not positive, examine what you have been practicing in that area of your life. If your current result is that you get angry and upset whenever the slightest thing goes wrong, think about how you can practice changing that result. You can actually begin looking for the next “opportunity” for something to go wrong so that you can practice a new response. Just like learning an instrument or sport, it may not go smoothly the first time but it is a start. Then you do it again and again and each repetition gives you an opportunity to get stronger.

In a relatively short period of time, you can develop an entirely new skill set that serves you better and improves the overall quality of your life. Try it. Challenge yourself. And see how your results change over time.

Determine a Definite Major Purpose (DMP) for your life

You need a 7 Day Brainwash“Cherish your visions and your dreams as they are the children of your soul, the blueprints of your ultimate achievements.” Napoleon Hill

In my opinion, the most important step anyone can take in the development of themselves and in the development of their potential is to determine a Definite Major Purpose (DMP) for their life!

If you really think about it, the most successful people in the world do this instinctively. Some of them may be well aware of the importance of having a major purpose in life while others just happen to stumble upon their purpose and never give it a second thought before diving in.

What are some of the characteristics of a DMP?

-It is work you would do whether or not you were paid

-It is something you have passion for

-It is something that YOU believe to be very important

-When you hold the vision of yourself engaged in your DMP, you feel excitement and joy

-It is work that you would like to be remembered for…Your LEGACY!

Why is it, then, that so few people ever find a DMP for their life? Why do we see so many people who don’t enjoy their days and spend all of their time wishing for something more?

From my experiences with coaching clients and with my seminar audiences, one of the most obvious pain points I notice is the fact that many people have not decided what they WANT out of life.

This is not surprising. For the majority of us, from a very young age we were conditioned to follow instructions, do what others told us to do and listen to outside opinions. So we did. We did what we thought we were supposed to do. Our own wants and desires in life took a back seat to what were “supposed” to be doing to establish a safe and secure future.

For many folks, a critical assumption had been made in their life and it translated to a mindset of lack and personal limitation. The assumption is that I cannot make a living doing what I love to do.’

By assuming this statement as an absolute truth, we see millions of people in our society accepting the fact’ that their dreams in life are unrealistic. Many people file these dreams in a

memory bank for safe keeping with the hope that one day, in the distant future, they will be in a position to be, do or have their heart’s desire.

If you happen to fall into the above category, or even if you don’t, I would like you to consider the following question:

“If you had all of the resources, money, self esteem, confidence and personal power to accomplish anything, what would you do?”

This is a powerful question to ask yourself because you are really talking about a higher purpose. You are searching for the answer to the following question, “What was I put on this earth to do?”

The exciting and empowering realization is that we all decide what our purpose is. It is literally up to us to decide what we want to do, what we want to dedicate our life to, find our own reasons for doing so and then pursue it.

OK, so figuring out your DMP in life isn’t exactly a trivial task. In fact, it took me 7 months of reading, studying, meditation, having discussions with people close to me and lots of introspection to finally decide I wanted to be a personal development speaker and success coach. Now, during this time period I certainly had an idea about what I wanted and the path I was on but I did not make a firm decision and set a clear goal (HINT for Lesson 2) until my 7th month of searching.

The point is, do not be alarmed, frustrated, overwhelmed or anxious if you don’t know what your DMP is. In fact, GET EXCITED by the fact that you are, starting TODAY, on a personal MISSION to figure out what it is you WANT out of life!