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Goal Setting and Goal Achieving is ultimately what characterizes the true winners in life. Unfortunately for some people, they have wonderful and exciting ideas for their life but it rarely goes further than the idea phase.
Having a Goal allows ANYONE to take an idea from the invisible plane of thought and begin the process of actualizing it in the real world.
In this lesson, we are going to focus on the process of goal setting. The subsequent lessons will help you with the actualization process of goal achieving.
So, how do you determine what your goals should be?
The easiest way to get going is to think about all of the various areas of your life where you place importance on improving your results. As an example, the most important areas of my life that I focus on for goal setting include Financial, Career, Family, Health/Fitness, Recreation/Free Time. There are no rules or restrictions when it comes to defining your own personal categories. The important part of the lesson is to look within and determine the areas of your life that you would like to focus on improving.
Note: You may already be very successful in a particular area of your life. This does NOT mean that you ignore goal setting here. In fact, it is just as important to focus on your goals in this area so that you move your mind into a mode of constant improvement’. There is ALWAYS room to grow! By universal law, if you are not growing and expanding, then you are fading away and dying. Choose NOW to always be moving in the direction of expansion
and fuller expression.
Goals are very much like a destination on the roadmap of your life. You are in charge of the direction you travel at ALL times. People with goals generally accomplish great things because they know where they are going.
An alarming observation is that according to recent statistics, fewer than 5% of the population have written goals for their life. This means that over 95% of the people are moving through life without a clear direction. So the obvious question for these folks is, “if you don’t know where you are going, how will you know when you get there?”
By learning this lesson, you automatically move yourself into the top 5% of high achievers.
Self confidence is one of the most important skills you can develop in your life, if you really want to achieve everything you set out to do. Do you consider yourself to be a confident person?
Confidence is developed and strengthened over time. For example, a dentist who has been operating her practice for a decade knows that she can effectively perform any and every routine that her clients might require. There is no doubt in her mind that the procedure will be a success and her confidence is literally at a peak.
That same dentist at some point in her career had to learn each procedure for the first time. Despite the studying and prep work, her confidence simply could not have been as high as it would after many years of experience and it is very likely that she experienced fear, anxiety and a total lack of confidence in the beginning.
Today, while this experienced dentist can perform her work with the utmost confidence, she may suffer from a complete lack of confidence in other areas of her life; such as singing in front of an audience or meeting new people at a networking event.
That is why it is vitally important for every person to literally claim their self confidence in every area of life where it is required. This means that if you have a big goal you are shooting for, realize that your main path to achieving that goal lies directly in the amount of confidence you have in yourself to actually attain it.
Take two people starting at zero each with the intention of making a million dollars in business. The first person has never run a business and has never made anywhere near that amount of money. The second person has built and sold a previous company for a million dollars. Obviously the second person has a much better chance at success because he has the confidence that it can be done.
Does this mean the first person won’t be able to achieve the goal? Absolutely not. But he must systematically build and grow his confidence to a point where the million dollar goal is believable.
By simply setting the intention to develop your own self confidence and then working daily on strengthening it, you can drive yourself towards any goal that you want to achieve in your life.
Most people I know, myself included, have extremely high expectations for themselves and for the results in their lives. The people around us like family and friends also have high expectations of us. In this day and age, we have more demands on us than probably any other time in human history.
With this kind of pressure, every one of us is bound to mess up somewhere along the way. We may miss an important appointment, make a critical error at work, neglect our significant other and so on. I’m sure you have your own situations you could plug right into this discussion.
One skill that I learned early in my career that has made a huge difference is to accept the fact that none of us are perfect. Mistakes are definitely going to happen but life is also going to continue… even when the mistakes may feel downright devastating at the time. The real key is how you react to your mistakes. Namely, do you run away and try to pretend like nothing happened, or do you use mistakes as an opportunity to develop your character and credibility?
As a business owner, I have had to do a lot of learning on the fly and this inevitably has lead to some pretty embarrassing mistakes in my career. Looking back on those situations, I am grateful and even pleased that every one of them took place. In most cases, my mistakes caused a client to become upset with both myself and my company. However, in every single situation, I was able to turn the initial negative situation into something very positive and beneficial in the long run.
How? The key is in ownership and accountability. Every time I made a mistake that negatively impacted a client (or anyone else for that matter), I made a point of:
1. Owning up to it and accepting 100% responsibility.
2. Making a complete commitment to do whatever was required to fix the problem.
These two steps have pulled me out of some pretty sticky situations and surprisingly allowed me to strengthen my relationship with virtually every person who may have been hurt by my mistake.
The real reason this happens comes back to basic human nature. Each person understands at a core level that no person is perfect. And when a person is willing to completely own up to a mistake and do what it takes to make it right, it is almost impossible for the other person to ignore them. They can empathize with the situation because they too have made mistakes and hurt other people.
The key thing to remember is that making mistakes is a good thing. It means that you are playing the game of life full out. All you need to do is stay accountable to yourself and the people in your life and you will always be able to correct a situation that may have gone astray.
“All successful people men and women are big dreamers. They imagine what their future could be, ideal in every respect, and then they work every day toward their distant vision, that goal or purpose. ”
“Communication is a skill that you can learn. It’s like riding a bicycle or typing. If you’re willing to work at it, you can rapidly improve the quality of every part of your life. ”
“Decisiveness is a characteristic of high-performing men and women. Almost any decision is better than no decision at all. ”
“Develop an attitude of gratitude, and give thanks for everything that happens to you, knowing that every step forward is a step toward achieving something bigger and better than your current situation. ”
“Goals allow you to control the direction of change in your favor.”
“I’ve found that luck is quite predictable. If you want more luck, take more chances. Be more active. Show up more often. ”
“If what you are doing is not moving you towards your goals, then it’s moving you away from your goals. ”
“If you raise your children to feel that they can accomplish any goal or task they decide upon, you will have succeeded as a parent and you will have given your children the greatest of all blessings. ”
“If you wish to achieve worthwhile things in your personal and career life, you must become a worthwhile person in your own self- development. ”
“It doesn’t matter where you are coming from. All that matters is where you are going. ”
“Just as your car runs more smoothly and requires less energy to go faster and farther when the wheels are in perfect alignment, you
perform better when your thoughts, feelings, emotions, goals, and values are in balance. ”
“Move out of your comfort zone. You can only grow if you are willing to feel awkward and uncomfortable when you try something new. ”
“Never say anything about yourself you do not want to come true.”
“Only by contending with challenges that seem to be beyond your strength to handle at the moment you can grow more surely toward the stars. ”
“People with clear, written goals, accomplish far more in a shorter period of time than people without them could ever imagine. ”
“Successful people are always looking for opportunities to help others. Unsuccessful people are always asking, “What’s in it for me?” ”
“Successful people are simply those with successful habits.”
“Teamwork is so important that it is virtually impossible for you to reach the heights of your capabilities or make the money that you want without becoming very good at it. ”
“The happiest people in the world are those who feel absolutely terrific about themselves, and this is the natural outgrowth of accepting total responsibility for every part of their life. ”
“Whatever you dwell on in the conscious grows in your experience.”
“Winners make a habit of manufacturing their own positive expectations in advance of the event. ”
“You can become an even more excellent person by constantly setting higher and higher standards for yourself and then by doing everything possible to live up to those standards. ”
“You cannot control what happens to you, but you can control your attitude toward what happens to you, and in that, you will be mastering change rather than allowing it to master you. ”
“You have to put in many, many, many tiny efforts that nobody sees or appreciates before you achieve anything worthwhile. ”
“You have within you right now, everything you need to deal with whatever the world can throw at you. “
We’ve all been there at some point in our life. Everything seems to be moving along smoothly when something suddenly happens; a challenge, a barrier, a crisis. These events can range anywhere from being mildly inconvenient to downright terrible and sometimes devastating. When situations like this arise, we all have ultimately one choice to make how we will choose to respond.
When you boil it down, that is really how our entire life unfolds. We are making a never ending series of choices about how we will interact with the events and circumstances surrounding us. Many of these choices occur unconsciously as part of our conditioned behaviour patterns. Understanding that we always retain the power and the right to make a conscious choice about our reactions is where we can transform challenges into opportunities.
Consider the idea of personal perception. Every person observes and interprets the world around them from a unique vantage point. I remember very clearly an incident about 5 years ago when I was having lunch on a restaurant patio with a few of my colleagues. The patio was next to a very busy street. About 20 minutes into our meal, we were all startled by a large crash followed by an excitable YELP sound. As I turned in my seat to examine the incident, we saw a new sports car t-boned by an older sedan. Fortunately, the collision had taken place at a relatively slow speed so there were no injuries, just two very upset drivers. The YELP sound had come from a tow truck driver who had been parked literally across the street. He was so excited that an accident had occurred right in front of his truck meaning he would be the first tow provider on the scene. Talk about drastically opposing perspectives! These two unfortunate drivers were caught up in a very unpleasant experience while the tow truck entrepreneur had his latest gig essentially fall into his lap.
What’s most interesting about this example is that it illustrates to me that the world around us simply exists, nothing more, nothing less. It is not until we apply our personal perception along with all of our expectations and beliefs, that events become positive or negative. Since we are creative by nature and always have 100% control over our thoughts, we can then choose to seek out the positives in life. When something happens to us that initially appears to be negative, we have an opportunity to reject our habitual reaction and create a new, more empowering belief about that event.
I have personally made a habit of this type of mentality and I continue to develop this capability with every passing day. I am becoming someone who can cherish the tough times. When adversity strikes, I am often able to control my attitude and remain focused on the positive rather than being consumed by the apparent misfortune. I then remind myself of Robert Collier’s quote, “In every adversity there lies the seed of an equivalent advantage.”
Dustin Carter is no stranger to adversity. We recently featured his YouTube video on the Ignite Your Essence website. Dustin was diagnosed with a rare blood disorder at age 5. The doctors were forced to amputate the majority of all of his limbs. Despite his obvious challenges, Dustin is now a top student wrestler working towards a full wrestling scholarship. He is a tremendous inspiration to everyone who meets him and he gives hope to others who may be facing physical challenges.
Many successful entrepreneurs have been able to transform challenging life situations into business building opportunities. One of the best examples of this is Robert Allen. His book, Nothing Down: How to Buy Real Estate with Little or No Money Down, went to the top of the New York Times Best-Seller list after a controversial ad he ran to promote it. In the ad, Allen claimed that you could take him to any city, take his wallet away, give him $100 and he could buy a piece of real estate. After Allen’s book had achieved great success, a reporter from the LA Times challenged his claim in the ad and called him a fraud. In order to prove himself, Allen was forced to take the challenge and prove he could actually achieve the feat. Not knowing if he would actually be able to pull it off, Robert Allen began to worry and realized that he would be professionally ruined if he was not able to deliver. In a formally arranged meeting, the reporter met Allen in San Francisco, took his wallet and gave him $100. With his name and credibility on the line, Allen took the $100 and purchased 7 properties worth $700,000 in a 57 hour window. Needless to say, he went on to achieve enormous success in his career.
How would your life change if you were able to transform a negative event into a positive experience? What kind of results could you produce if you learned to embrace adversity and treat it as an opportunity for growth? Regardless of the nature of the challenge you are facing, decide to become the kind of person who embodies this philosophy and you will most assuredly begin to produce incredible things in your life while providing inspiration to those around you!
are literally trading the minutes, hours and days of your life in exchange for your current
activities. Most of us spend 40 (and often more) hours per week trading the precious moments of
our life for our job. Two questions immediately rise to the surface:
1. Do you consciously recognize and appreciate each day of your life with the awareness
that none of us know how much or how little time we have left?
2. If so, are you making a fair trade (i.e. are your activities worthy of your life energy)?
When I rst understood this lesson at both an intellectual and emotional level, my honest answer
to both of the above questions was NO! I was not necessarily taking my life for granted but I also
did not truly appreciate my days. I was devoting my time to a number of things that did not make
me happy and I was avoiding facing my fears. My mindset was I will deal with it at a better
time.’ Deep down I knew I was simply avoiding the issue altogether.
Speci cally, I am talking about my professional career. Although I was quite successful, had a
great salary, great security, excellent bene ts and room to grow in the organization, I did not
enjoy the work. I would start my day and look forward for it to be over. I did not work with any
passion. Worst of all, I was trading my life for this career.
Because this was the only profession I knew and spent many years establishing myself, it never
actually occurred to me that change was possible. I simply assumed that I would have to stick it
out and hopefully do well enough nancially so that I could retire early and THEN begin to
enjoy my days.
Then I got involved in personal development programs. I started to learn more about life and
more about the mind. I quickly realized that I had been operating my life following a set of
beliefs and paradigms that were not necessarily ideas that I agreed with. I had always assumed
that everyone disliked their job and it was just something we all had to go through to earn our
When I found out that there were many people who loved their work and had found a way to
make a living based on their passions, I was very intrigued. I was also wary of the idea because it
sounded too good to be true.
As I started to study some of these people and learn about the inspiring lives they were living, I
realized a very important distinction between them and myself. Unlike me at the time, they DID
appreciate the value of each living day and they also structured their life in such a way that they
were trading their days for a purpose worthy of them and their true values.
When I compared them to myself, I was trading the days of my life for something that made me
unhappy. When I dissected it further, I was choosing this lifestyle because I was too afraid to
change. I was afraid to give up the salary and bene ts, afraid to give up the position that took so
many years to obtain, afraid to admit to others that I was unhappy and afraid to decide what I
truly wanted out of life.
The more I thought about it and the more I studied personal development teachings and success
stories, the greater my desire for change became. I started to reprogram my mind so that the pain
of remaining status quo was actually more intense than the fear of change. I know many personal
growth programs advocate positive thinking, but negative motivators inspire action for all of us.
It certainly worked in my case.
Not only did this new mindset drive me to nd my true passion and true calling in life (speaking
and coaching), it helped me establish a sense of personal freedom that can best be described as
liberation. There came a point where my self image literally shifted and I saw myself safely and
con dently walking away from the career that I had so desperately held onto for many years.
The days of my life were far too important and valuable to be spending them doing something
that had no meaning for me. After I resigned from that position, I made a personal commitment
to dedicate the rest of my working days doing only that which I love.
I now love my work. I look forward to my days. I look forward to new projects and new
opportunities. I never think about retirement because I never plan on retiring. When you do what
you love, why would you ever want to stop?
If you are reading this article and can share a similar story, please contact me directly as I would
love to put together a special edition of my newsletter to pro le all of the inspiring and uplifting
stories of people who are living their dream.
One of the most fulfilling things a person can do is take some kind of action that causes them to improve in a certain area of their life. Think about this from your own perspective for a second. Remember a time when you accomplished something that proved you had become “better”.
For me, when I first began my entrepreneurial career, one of my goals was to be a professional speaker. Despite how nervous I would get before a talk (mostly due to a total lack of experience), I got out and started speaking. I was mediocre at best. But I kept trying, learning, studying and practicing. When the opportunity came to speak to a huge group of new university students, I delivered my most confident and inspiring talk to-date. I still remember the rush of excitement at the end of the talk when a bunch of the students lined up to speak to me and ask me questions at the end. I knew I had taken a step in the right direction. The real win: I was improving and it was an awesome feeling!
For the past 3 years, I have spent most of my time developing my business and implementing as many self improvement ideas as I could. What I realized along the way was that I was not merely improving but I was actually reprogramming my mind to get rid of old habits and beliefs and instill new, more empowering ones. I was brainwashing myself.
Here are 7 things you might want to try that will help you brainwash yourself to a new and improved YOU:
Emulate a role model
Learn to trust the sound of your own voice
Hang out with an influencer
Wage a war against the crybaby voice in your head
Use new relationships to develop a new persona
Get the competitive edge
Get up early and study
There’s no feeling like it. It is real and it is powerful. It creates intense physical sensations that cause our brains to scream “RETREAT”! It is also useful because it keeps us alert and keeps us safe. It is the emotion of fear and it has been one of my greatest adversaries.
Growing up, I was never once accused of being a major risk taker. I was not interested in being adventurous or exploratory. I remember being afraid to try the big toboggan hill, terrified of going on roller coasters and the thought of doing a student exchange program simply didn’t enter my realm of possibility. For whatever reason, I was very much controlled by my fears.
I’ll never forget a specific incident that occurred over 17 years ago. I was in grade 7 and my teacher recognized me as one of the top spellers in the school. He invited me to participate in the spelling bee which would take place in the auditorium in front of the entire school. I can still vividly remember the crippling sensations of fear as I visualized myself spelling a word incorrectly in front of the entire school. Without hesitation, I declined his invite and told him “it’s really not something I’m interested in.” Yeah right! This was exactly something I was interested in but the fear once again kept me in the bleachers. What made the whole event so tough to swallow was that I actually would have won had I participated. I knew how to spell every word in the competition including the word that eliminated the final participant. Fear took me out of the game before it started. Fear cost me a huge win, personal success and school fame.
My sister, on the other hand, seemed to have been born with a higher threshold for fear. I remember her bombing down that same toboggan hill that I was scared to try and she is 4 years younger than me. As for travel, at age 15 she took the first opportunity to travel across the world alone and live with a family in Germany for a few months. To this day, she continues to live an adventure-filled life including moving 5000 kilometres away from home to do her master’s degree, snowboarding down a mountain and even skydiving! Does she experience fear? Of course, but she does not permit fear to be a deciding factor in her goals and aspirations.
When I finally adopted the same mindset and made a commitment to take action in spite of fear, I was able to take full control of my life and implement lasting change. As I began to work on myself and learned what my fears were and why they existed, I started to truly understand the limitations that fear had created in my life. Once I placed my focus on what my fears had been costing me, the motivation to overcome the fears seemed to blossom. I actually felt angry because I was now associating the pain of missing out on life’s adventures with my inability to transcend my fears.
I now see fear, doubt and worry for what they truly are; imagined catastrophes. I once heard an author say that fear stands for “Fantasized Expectations Appearing Real” and I could not agree more. When I am feeling fearful, I can effectively deal with the emotion because I now understand that I am literally using my imagination to contemplate a disastrous outcome to a situation. Having this awareness allows me to move forward, experience the physical sensations being caused by the fear and ultimately overcome the feeling.
The best part about learning how to overcome fear is the true sense of liberation. To set the record straight, yes I was a fearful kid but I still had some amazing experiences and many came when I mustered up enough courage to do something that scared me. When Canada’s Youth Television Network YTV was at our school doing auditions for a kids game show, not only did I step up to the plate, but I actually made it on the show! Despite feeling extremely nervous and fearful of looking foolish on television, I went ahead and gained a life experience that my family still talks about today. I let them off the hook for making fun of my 1980’s mullet hairdo
From a professional perspective, I have had to work extremely hard at dealing with fear when it comes to public speaking. Despite the fact that I quit my software career to pursue a business in personal development speaking and coaching, I had a significant amount of anxiety when it came to standing up in front of an audience. You see, my ultimate goal is to be a top ranked platform speaker like so many of my mentors. But I set this goal with the awareness that I had a fear of speaking and that I would have to transform and reinvent myself completely to fulfill this desire. I would consider this particular task to be a work in progress. I continue to get up and speak in front of audiences. The size of the audience is progressively growing larger and the size of my fear is progressively getting smaller. Instead of worrying about my next presentation, I am eagerly practicing and preparing to deliver a performance to the best of my ability. The audience feedback is indicating that I am on the right track.
It is the culmination of these positive indicators that continue to chip away at my fear and move me towards liberation. While I accept and embrace fear as a part of the equation that keeps me sharp, I am able to continually move forward and develop myself to new levels and plateaus. Life is much more exciting now that I have learned to step into the fear!
Those of you who are searching for a job may find it impossible to find one which suits you. Is this because such a job does not exist, or is it because in your subconscious mind you believe that you will not be able to find a job, and consequently are releasing so much negative energy out into the universe that you are actually driving those jobs away?
Anyone who has ever tried to search for a job (or known somebody who has) knows that you have a drastically improved chance of finding employment when you are already employed elsewhere than if you are unemployed. For someone who has lost their job and is currently unemployed it may seem easier to climb Mount Everest than to get that first all-important interview. It seems as though nobody is interested in what they have to offer.
Why is this? It’s certainly not because there are no employment opportunities out there; many people manage to find jobs relatively easily and some even hold down two or three different jobs. Why, then, do people suffer from unemployment for months or even years at a time?
The answer to that is they often believe they will not be able to find a job, and consequently they have stopped trying. In their subconscious minds they do not truly believe that any of their efforts will work, and so they are projecting that negative thought energy out to the universe.
On the other hand, an individual who already has a job is secure and confident in their ability to find a job and do it well; after all, someone has obviously thought them worthy enough to hire them (and keep them) in the first place, and chances are if they are searching for a new job it is because they are confident enough in their abilities that they believe they deserve a job that will treat them better/pay them more/provide more stimulating work/etc.
Chances are that you too are looking for more from your career than you have right now. If you are still seeking that dream job, simply state your intention; ask the universe for it, imagine yourself in your dream job, feel as thought you have it, believe that it is yours and then sit back and wait, secure in the knowledge that the law of attraction will bring it into your life. It might not be today, it might not exactly how you expected, but it will happen.
Maybe you are satisfied with the job you have but you are seeking a promotion; after all, no one wants to be at the bottom of the career ladder forever.
In order to get the promotion you are dreaming about the first thing you must do is remove any doubt from your mind. Walk into the interview one hundred percent sure that the position is yours; remember, if you are still living with the belief that the position may be above you and you are not certain that you have the necessary skills to fill it then you are absolutely right. On the other hand, if you believe that the position is yours and you do have the necessary skills to do a good job, you are also right! So what is your reality going to be?
If you have ever gone to high school you have probably received advice on what to do and what not to do in an interview. One of the biggest don’ts in interviewing protocol is to let the interviewer see that you are nervous. By showing the interviewer that you have confidence in your ability to handle any job which they throw at you, you are increasing your value as an employee in their eyes.
The same can be said of any attempts to open a business. It is essential when approaching prospective investors that you have one hundred percent confidence in yourself and your business in order to guarantee that they will be willing to take a chance on you.
Is this need for absolute confidence a coincidence only, or is it the law of attraction at work? By having confidence in your abilities you are sending positive energy out into the universe, and consequently drawing the positive energies currently existing in the universe back to you.
I can’t emphasize enough the importance of sending out positive thought vibrations as often as you can. The release of positive thought energy into the universe is what allows you manifest your dream life rather than just drifting and accepting whatever comes your way because you don’t feel that you can change it.