There are people who get nervous about investing emotionally in relationships and friendships. They feel unworthy of being loved and appreciated by others or may have been hurt from previous relationships. With that being said, self-protection happens and it can be done in different ways.
Disengaging yourself mentally is a good way to protect yourself from emotional hurt but it can also avoid you from establishing emotional happiness and meaningful relationships. Distancing yourself by not engaging mentally may seem boring, aloof, hostile, and disinterested to others. Other people may feel that they are being ignored but in reality they do not know how to start a conversation and may feel a little awkward.
Be a good listener, keep updated with topical news and events, accept invitations, join conversations, and gradually develop the ability to indulge friendly interactions. This is the start of building good relationships. As time goes by, it is also crucial to share feelings, personal stuff, and wishes to other people so that relationships can have quality and depth.
Running away physically is also an effective method to protect yourself emotionally. Some people end their relationships than have a deep conversation with their partners or friends. The idea of sitting down and talk about something that may be contentious can be overwhelming to be felt that people choose to leave, avoid the encounter, go home and may even end the relationship. Reality is though that when a couple chose to stay and have that deep conversation, they become closer, learn more about each other, and are able to take their relationship to a whole new level.
Instead of running away, you should stay and schedule a convenient time and choose a place away from people where you can privately discuss problems. It is valuable in any relationship to set aside time for conversations where you can talk to each other.
You should be aware of your boundaries knowing that if someone steps beyond the mark and behaves improperly, you should deal with it effectively and nicely. Relationships involve compromise sometimes and people may have different demands on time, money, interests, hobby that they do not necessarily share. People have traits and characteristics that their friend or partner does not understand but is willing to accept. Differences can add interest and spice to a relationship and encourage people to become more tolerant and try new things.
Negotiating boundaries will allow a person to respect or maybe to occasionally agree to go along things to support the other, knowing that there is someone there for support. Emotional security and successful relationships is a give and take, from compromising and adapting and also from being confident in speaking up if necessary. This is a crucial skill to learn in adult relationships, respecting others as well as ourselves.