You actions are based on your thoughts. If you are saying that doing the things that do not show the real you, then you are thinking out of this world. Your feelings are controlled by your thoughts. This is not about what you think but it is how you think, which implies that it is not about thinking at all. This is actually the Zen approach, which is less is more and nothing is best. The more you think the less effective and intelligent you are as all thinking is based on lower personality and the personality cannot think its way out of the paper bag. Actually, this is the main cause of your past mistakes.
Thinking that something is so does not imply that it is, but knowing it is so does mean it is. Remember, you have two personalities: the lower personal self and the higher subconscious self. Thinking is of personality while knowing is of subconscious. These two must work together for thinking to be genuine, effective, and right. If there is no foundation of subconscious knowledge for guidance, then your thinking is ignorant and baseless. The subconscious cannot express except through personality, and personality cannot without the knowingness that depends from the subconscious source.
You are an independent team with two constituents. The technique to living in powerful and intelligent reality is to coordinate with your team than your personality. This is the one that needs to be changed regarding how you are thinking and living. This will become your main discipline and meditation. This means that it is the central and reality-based way of living that you cannot deviate. If you deviate from this, then it would be deviating from the reality along with your self-control that comes with it.
This discipline is practiced by observing your thinking when it is happening. You practice while you are sitting alone of doing your business. You should not do anything else. Watch your thoughts as they come and go like clouds passing by. Think nothing about them. Do not take them seriously and personally. Just watch them detached from a distance. Do not interfere with them or judge them.
This technique is to keep you pure and not contaminate the knowing process. As you go on with this pure witnessing, your thoughts will stop on their own. The mind becomes still and silent, and this is when knowing starts to happen. Amazing isn’t it? What takes place is thinking prevents access from the higher subconscious. Now that you know better, you can express and think better. What comes from your mouth is from the heart and mind. This combination is your foundation of peace, creative power, and joy.