Talking to yourself negatively can destroy your self-confidence and make problems in relationships. We feel that we are unworthy to be loved, incapable of doing anything good, and unable to finish something that has value. Words can cut like swords in every soul and destroy success and happiness. Changing how we talk needs awareness of what we are saying. Most people, unfortunately, do not realize that they are talking to themselves negatively. Unless another person will notify them.
People usually talk to themselves in a negative approach. Our worst enemy is ourselves. We would often say bad things to ourselves that we would never say to others. These negative words can become our beliefs and stay with us until the end unless we do something.
To change negative self-talk, you should figure out why you have this bad habit. For most people, it originates from childhood and having a family of conflict and criticism. For other people, it is from a recent abusive relationship. It could also originate from the media that shows unrealistic images of beauty and gives false message that we have to have possessions to be successful and happy.
When you already know the reason, there are steps that need to be followed to replace negative self-talk to a positive one. Below are the steps that you should follow:
You should write you self-talk in a journal. Analyse what you have written. Are they true? or are they what other people say about you? Rewrite your self-talk by changing negative words to positive.
Look yourself at the mirror every day. Say positive things about yourself. Smile all the time and tell yourself that you look great.
You should say positive affirmation. Write these on colored shapes and put them on your mirror, fridge, door and read them aloud every time you see them. Write them in index cards and bring them in your pocket or purse. Take them out several times to remind yourself. Make sure that you are not repeating empty words, you should feel what you are saying. Affirm other people with positive statements and it will make them feel good as well as yourself.
Concentrate on the positive aspect. When negative thoughts come out from your mind, stop and think about something positive.
Changing your self talk needs effort and lots of time but the results are rewarding. Spend time each day and work towards your goal. You will soon create a good habit that will be difficult to break.