6 tips to strengthen your willpower muscles

You need a 7 Day BrainwashIf you do some searching around the Internet, you will see a number of interesting

studies that have been conducted on the habit of “willpower” as being an important predictor of success in life.

In general, people who exercise more self control (in all different types of situations) are more likely to produce better results in life, health, family, business, and so on.

Many of the studies actually show that a person’s willpower acts like a muscle that can be developed and strengthened with practice. Here are some suggested activities you can try to strengthen your own willpower or self-control “muscles”…

1. Try brushing your teeth with the opposite hand. It might start off feeling very awkward, but as you work on the habit, you improve your ability while increasing your self control.

2. Change your reactions. For example, if you have the habit of reacting with anger when something doesn’t go your way, choose to practice changing your reaction to something more positive. Each experience creates the new habit and reinforces your willpower muscles.

3. Read or listen to books about personal development daily (ideally at the same time each day). The more you analyze your habits and behaviours, the more you will see opportunities for change and improvement.

4. Replace every drink with water. This is a great habit for anyone who wants to improve their health. If you normally have a pop, coffee or juice, make the conscious decision to replace it with water. Each choice strengthens your self control muscles and contributes to better health.

5. Practice proper breathing. As often as possible throughout the day, focus on deep breathing into your diaphragm rather than short breaths that often come as a result of stress.

6. Adjust your posture. By repeatedly correcting your posture, you not only improve the health of your body (and particularly your spine), you also create an opportunity to form a new habit that comes from the development of your willpower.

These are just a few examples that you can use and adapt into your own self-control regimen. The key is to find activities that are important to you and will move you towards some specific goal you have in your life.

Another important aspect to keep in mind is the enjoyment factor. If you are working on your willpower strength but the entire time, you feel like it is punishment or painful, the chance of you maintaining your new habit is slim.

So take some time today to think of some new activities you can build into your life that help you build your willpower and self control. Remember to have fun with it, see it as a tool to help you become more successful and don’t forget to forgive yourself if you happen to sway off track once in a while.

You are responsible for what happens in your life

You need a 7 Day BrainwashWant to know what thought energies you have been giving out to the universe? It is simple- take a look around you! Look at the job you do, the car you drive, the home you live in and the people in your life they are all reflections of what you have been giving out.

Not what you wanted? Then you have been giving out vibrations which have attracted these unwanted things into your life- or at least have not attracted the things you really want. By giving your attention to the things you don’t want in your life, and charging them with emotional thought energy, you have unconsciously attracted them. It is likely that some areas of your life are better than others, which means that you have been giving out more positive vibrations in these areas.

Does this mean that all of the bad things that happen to you in this life happen because you subconsciously want them to? Not necessarily. As we have seen, the law of attraction cannot differentiate between good and bad. If you are focusing too hard on something you don’t want to happen, such as your car breaking down or an automobile accident, your subconscious mind picks up on these vibrations and sees it as an instruction to manifest it into your life- regardless if it is something you want or not. You have attracted it by default.

It can be very tough to take on board the fact that we are responsible for creating everything we have in our lives right now- good and bad. A lot of people find it difficult to accept this- as a society we are very good at blaming anyone or anything else for our current situation. But, as we mentioned earlier, once you have accepted this then you can start to change your thought vibrations and start attracting the life you do want.

Is maybe your friend?

You need a 7 Day BrainwashYesterday was full of maybe’s. I’d been booked to do a one day course in London, and I was trying to buy my rail ticket over the phone. As I was speaking, the guy at the other end said to me, “I’m sorry, sir, my computer screen has just blanked out. All our system is down. Could you call back later?” I tried, but it was the same story. A third time, the same. Wasn’t that annoying?

Maybe.

I was just beginning to get frustrated, when my phone rang. It was the man who’d booked me. “Listen,” he said, “Am I too late to postpone you for a week? We’ve got a hitch this end.”

There is a story I rather like. A poor Indian farmer has a small piece of land and a horse. He is old, but his healthy son works the land and can ride the horse. One day, the horse runs away. The neighbours gather round and say how terrible it is. “You poor man,” they cry, “now you cannot work your land. That’s terrible.”

“Well, maybe,” is all the old farmer says.

The next day, the horse returns with two wild horses. The neighbours cry, “It’s a miracle. Now you have three horses. Isn’t that wonderful?”

“Well, maybe,” says the old man.

The farmer’s son is breaking in the wild horses when one of them throws him and he falls badly and breaks his leg. The neighbours are horrified. “Now you have no one to work the land. That’s awful,” they wail.

You guessed what the farmer says, haven’t you? “Well, maybe.”

The next day, war breaks out, and the government conscript all healthy young men into the army. When they get to the farmer’s house, they cannot take his son because of his broken leg.

“It’s wonderful,” cry the neighbours, (who obviously don’t learn very fast). “Now your son will be spared the war. Isn’t that fabuloso?”

By now, you know what the farmer said. He said, “Well, maybe.” …………..

In Chinese, the character for crisis is also the character for “opportunity.” You can’t see round corners, but if you trust that the corners are there, and that you’ll always find a way to handle whatever is there when you turn them, you’ll simply enjoy discovering what you’re capable of. If you resist, you’ll hurt.

Maybe.

Motivate Yourself For Success

You need a 7 Day BrainwashDid you see the Beijing Olympics, the World Cup Soccer or Wimbledon this year? Rarely are we privileged to witness such triumph and human spirit at its absolute best.

How did all those athletes get motivated, especially the gold medalists and the winners?

Was it the thought of the gold medal itself that kept them running, jumping, swimming or facing whatever feat of endurance that will write them into the history books?

Well, perhaps. But we know that what we saw them all do was the end of very, very long journeys for those incredibly motivated men and women.

Along the way, most of them will have faced failures, challenges such as injuries or changes in their personal lives, and there will for many of them I am sure, have been times when they lost heart and just believed they could not succeed.

We all know this. Most of us don’t even aspire to be Olympic athletes, but we each do have our dreams – for our businesses, our families, our relationships and ourselves.

Who wants to write a novel? Who’d like to perform their own song or play? Who wants to be a millionaire?

The journeys to dreams are rarely straightforward or without challenge. If they were, they’d hardly be worth having. The glory of an Olympic gold medal is precisely because it’s extraordinarily difficult to earn one. If they were handed out like candy at a kids birthday party, no one would have the slightest interest in a gold medal or gold medallist!

However, the biggest challenge isn’t with the feat of endurance – it’s with your own mind. You have to believe that you can do whatever it is, and in those moments when doubt creeps in, at those dark times when you lose heart, you have to know how to get back on track – fast!

Your coach, if you have one, can be a great help. Family and friends will rally round to support you. But ultimately it’s down to you. If you keep shaking your head saying, “I can’t do it. I can’t, I can’t,” eventually even your coach will leave you behind – and they’ll find someone else who believes they can!

Masters of Success know this. They know how to recognize the signs and symptoms of self doubt. More than that, they know how re-ignite the flame of desire for the goal, and fan that flame into a fervour that drives them – with passion – to keep going. That flame eventually becomes their personal blaze of glory.

Stay motivated. It sounds simple, but unless you know how to follow that instruction, it’s as daft as saying to someone who’s stressed, “Try to relax.” (What do you suppose they’ve been doing?)

Success comes from within. Motivation is a major component of any kind of success.

Going for gold?

See you at the top!

Inspirational quotes for better living

You need a 7 Day Brainwash“What chance gathers she easily scatters. A great person attracts great people and knows how to hold them together.”

Johann Wolfgang Von Goethe

“A general is just as good or just as bad as the troops under his command make him.”

General Douglas MacArthur

“The real leader has no need to lead– he is content to point the way.”

Henry Miller

“A leader is a dealer in hope.”

Napoleon Bonaparte

“Rely on your own strength of body and soul. Take for your star self- reliance, faith, honesty and industry. Don’t take too much advice keep at the helm and steer your own ship, and remember that the great art of commanding is to take a fair share of the work. Fire above the mark you intend to hit. Energy, invincible determination with the right motive, are the levers that move the world.”

Noah Porter

“If your actions inspire others to dream more, learn more, do more and become more, you are a leader.”

John Quincy Adams

“He who has never learned to obey cannot be a good commander.”

Aristotle

“The ultimate measure of a man is not where he stands in moments of comfort, but where he stands at times of challenge and controversy.”

Martin Luther King, Jr.

“Where there is no vision, the people perish.”

Proverbs 29:18

“Misfortunes, untoward events, lay open, disclose the skill of a general, while success conceals his weakness, his weak points.”

Horace

“In this world a man must either be an anvil or hammer.”

Henry W. Longfellow

The Law of Attraction History

You need a 7 Day BrainwashIt is important that you understand that the law of attraction is not simply New Age nonsense (many descriptions of the law of attraction refer to it as a product of a New Age Mentality). The principles of the law of attraction date back far beyond the new found popularity of the New Age.

The immortal Buddha was actually one of the first to introduce man to the law of attraction. He said, “What you have become is what you have thought.” This was a principle that the people of the east were acquainted with for centuries before it began to sweep into the western hemisphere.

The concept of karma may also have drawn its roots from the law of attraction. Karma states that you will eventually be revisited by that which you have sent out into the universe. If you have practiced kindness and compassion, you will receive it in kind. If you have been deliberately cruel to another, you will receive back into your life that cruelty which you have sent out. Your actions and thoughts morph into physical entities, causing the universe to react in kind.

The law of attraction began to gain popularity in the western hemisphere in the 19th century, as people began to appreciate the power of positive thinking and how to apply it to their lives. This new concept was first introduced to the general public by William Walker Atkinson, the editor of New Thought magazine, who published a book called Thought Vibration or the Law of Attraction in the Thought World’ in 1906. Other works followed, including the famous Master Key System’ by Charles F Haanel, and Think and Grow Rich’, written in 1937 by Napoleon Hill.

As you can see, the concept of the law of attraction is not new. The idea that thought can have a predominate affect on the course of a man’s destiny has been taught by wise men throughout the ages, and has given rise to a whole new era of beliefs. The principles have been used, either consciously or unconsciously, by the rich and successful for thousands of years.

The Secret’

You have probably heard of the movie, The Secret’- it has been largely responsible for the recent interest in the law of attraction and is well worth watching. The Secret’ is actually based on older classics’ written in the early part of the 20th Century, such as the Master Key System’ and The Science of Getting Rich’. However, knowing about The Secret’ (the law of attraction) is not enough- you have to learn how to apply it and how to control your thoughts and feelings so that your desires can manifest into reality.

Make goal lists

You need a 7 Day BrainwashTypically those who achieve have a different mindset to those who never quite make the mark. This mindset is made up of an inner belief, a steely confidence and the power of positive thinking which can help to transform not only your outlook but the way that life’s journey unfolds.

In order to be able to change your life, you need to identify what it is that you really want to achieve. What one area represents the person that you would like to be? Or learn how to identify the one aspect that could add powerful positive changes to your life.

Having a clear focus will enable you to map out the things that you need to make these life-changing decisions and to start the ball of transformation rolling in your direction. Of course, clearing the conscious clutter isn’t always the easiest thing to do. Your mind could be so filled with disorder that even learning how to cope each day, week and month is a frightening reality. The prospect of making significant changes is not just daunting; it might feel as if it is off the scale of probabilities.

Making a list of all of the things that you would like to do will help define a pathway through all of the muddled thoughts that might litter your consciousness and having things clearly depicted in black and white in front of you will help you to sort out the priorities of your life.

It doesn’t matter if the list is jumbled and without any sort of order. The main thing is to direct your stream of thought onto paper and to capture it all. Afterwards, you will be able to sit quietly and sort them into order of preference.

This might sound far too easy to really be any good but it’s not. Small stepping stones will map out your way to great achievements. When you start to prioritize any goals, be sure to make them achievable. If you write down that you wish to earn a million dollars overnight, then you are probably going to wake up unsuccessful and disappointed that the power of thought didn’t do what you expected it to. There are no magic wands remember, but there is a science behind your transformational journey-you simply have to be realistic and be focussed.

You might really want to earn a million dollars but whilst this is distinctly possible it is more likely to be achieved further along into your journey than right at the start. Remember-small stepping stones lead to great things.

Your first goal should be something that could be achieved in a matter of weeks allow 4 to 8 weeks. So your goal should be something significant but that can be achieved with a renewed mindset and a sense of purpose. Ideally, any goals should feed into each other therefore making each goal the next important cog in the chain towards your overall target.

Some goals may be to just eliminate the negative aspects of your life that have always stopped you from achieving. Perhaps you are overwhelmed by negative thoughts constantly or perhaps your own self-limitations hold you back?

Do you always feel pressured for time? Wonder how on earth you are going to get everything done? In this instance, time management might be a good first goal if you always feel that your life is out of control and that you can’t implement new changes because there is never enough time to complete the tasks that you have currently.

When setting goals, you are looking at how to materialize the outcome and time management of course, would make a big difference to your life. Realistically, it simply needs a clear head when deciding which tasks should stay and which tasks should be cleared off your to-do list altogether.

Whilst creating your list, it’s worth considering just what holds you back in life. Why have you fallen short of your potential previously? It might be that you are scared to achieve or of course to fail? Capability is often not the real issue behind falling short of your potential but fear can be, so dig deep into your subconscious, what are you really scared of?

If you think about your chosen final goal, do you get excited by the prospect of realizing that dream? Or is there a nagging element of self-doubt that is interfering with your final vision? If yes, ascertaining why is important. Everyone has fears to overcome and facing up to yours is vital if you want to let go of the old you and embrace the new transformed you. Ask yourself out loud, what is really stopping you from being the person that you know you can be?

Don’t just write out your goals and forget all about them. You need to continuously reinforce your goals within your mind. They need to be important to you and you should relish each and every one of them. If you can imagine yourself accomplishing your goal then it will become more tangible and believable.

Stepping stones i.e. those small goals that interlink towards greater success are an excellent way of taking small but powerful steps to the new you. You need to follow your plan and work out a course of action for achievement and should you start allowing negative self-doubts to pop into your mind, just let them go. The power of the mind is strong. If you determinedly put all negative thoughts to one side and consistently do so, they will eventually dissipate.

Learn to track your progress and keep an eye on your timescales. If you have given yourself realistic deadlines then you should stay on course. Tracking allows you the chance to increase your endeavours if you are behind schedule and to pat yourself on the back if you are right on target. Tick each completed item on your to-do list and feel the sense of satisfaction at taking control of your life.

Treat yourself to something nice as you make each deadline. Your reward is personal to you but make it so that it adds to your sense of achievement. As you reach each deadline your confidence and sense of self-esteem will also rise dramatically.

Design your life

You need a 7 Day BrainwashOne of the most difficult things to master in life is your own mind. Every one of us has hundreds, maybe even thousands, of thought patterns that repeat themselves over and over in our head.

Some of these thoughts are supportive of our goals and self esteem but many of them actually hurt us or hold us back.

Taking control of your mind and directing your thoughts towards the things you want in life can be a huge challenge. But when you are able to overcome the challenges and focus on the things you intend to create in your life, the results can be amazing and exciting.

Let’s say, for example, that you have had a lifelong dream of traveling the world for a year. You know that this would be a life changing experience that you would remember forever.

But then you look at your current circumstances and you see a laundry list of reasons why this dream could never come true: a good job you can’t leave, a lack of funding, commitments to family, friends, teams and organizations, etc…

Your mind immediately says, “this trip is not possible until you clear all of those obstacles out of the way.” You then realize that removing all of those limitations is next to impossible and even if you are able to remove them, new obligations/limitations will replace the existing ones.

At the same time, you could look at other areas of your life where you are able to make things happen that seem impossible: you meet a crazy deadline at work, you brave the snowy roads and somehow make 3 family events for Christmas, you get the kids to school and yourself to work despite a huge traffic jam and car problems. The point is, you are achieving things in your life, on a regular basis, that seem difficult or impossible when you analyze them. Yet you seem to pull them off over and over again because you had no other choice… you had to get these things done.

When you realize that you have this ability to make things happen and figure things out “on the fly”, you gain a new confidence that you can apply to even the biggest goals in your life.

So if your dream is to travel the world but there are a mountain of excuses stopping you, the real solution is to treat the dream as inevitable and start acting as though it is inevitable. It could start with a small action like doing research on places to stay in your dream locations or it could start with a huge action like buying plane ticket to the first country on your dream list. This first action will lead to another and like every other time in your life, you will figure it out as you go along only this time, instead of getting the kids to school or finishing that project at work, you will be fulfilling a lifelong dream!

Don’t be afraid to ask for help

You need a 7 Day BrainwashThe other day someone reminded me of a quote from “A Course In Miracles” which goes something like: “All human behaviour is either an act of love or a cry for help.”

Such pearls of wisdom are lost, aren’t they, unless they have some personal meaning?

Then yesterday I got upset with someone I’m very close to. I mean angry and hurt. In my heart of hearts I knew I wasn’t being rational or constructive, but in the heat of the moment it didn’t matter. I was right, darn it!

And then, as so often happens when you just release for a while, the answer fluttered in. That quote reverberated round my brain for a while, and then I asked myself, “Well, in that case, I’m either performing an act of love or a cry for help. This surely doesn’t feel loving, so what is it I want help with?”

As if by magic the pieces dropped into place. I went to this person and said, “Listen. I need your help. I need not to feel like this. I know your behaviour wasn’t intended to hurt me, so I must have made up the hurt myself. But I’m kinda playing this loop tape in my head that you didn’t put there, but once I started it, for a while, it’s all I can hear.”

We reached a loving understanding in less than ten minutes. We are closer, bigger inside and enriched.

So here’s my tip for now, for this day and for always. If there’s anyone you’re upset with, even if it’s an old upset, ask yourself, “What is it I need help with?” And then humbly and sincerely ask them for your help. Do it with your palms up and your head high, for you are bigger than your anger, and love and friendship are more important than your ego.