Can you believe it?

You need a 7 Day BrainwashI’m always fascinated when I read stories or case studies about “the placebo effect”. The typical scenario has a group of people being given a sugar pill but they BELIEVE the treatment is real. Often these people recover as well, or even better than those who received the actual treatment.

The explanation of this phenomenon basically comes down to the fact that the patient believed the treatment was real, and it was the belief that caused the positive result.

I’m sure you would agree that people always act and respond based on what they believe to be true. For example, if you believed you saw a bear in the forest, you would likely react with fear. If the bear turned out to be a person dressed in a bear costume, you would still react with just as much fear until you were told the “real” truth. Once you were aware that the bear was not real, you believed a new reality and your response would change drastically.

Well this process can be applied to pretty much any area of life.

Most often, I think about this process when it comes to achieving a goal that is well beyond anything you have accomplished before. It is very difficult to believe that you are capable of achieving something so foreign to your current life results.

For example, if you are terrified of speaking in front of a small group, it is next to impossible to believe that you would be capable of delivering a powerful speech to a large audience. However, if you spent 30 days reading, studying and even speaking to people who overcame your exact situation to become powerful speakers, you would quickly create the belief that this was also possible for you.

Once you had truly convinced your mind that you were also capable of being a speaker, your actions would follow suit. You would take speaker training, you would participate in speaking engagements, you would join public speaking clubs and you would likely do anything else that moved you towards the goal.

But all of these actions were governed by the fact that you believed you were capable.

So here is the real question. Do you have certain goals or ideas that you may have been rejecting because you simply did not believe you were capable?

If so, it is very likely that you formed this belief by default without ever really asking yourself if it was possible. Well now is your chance to start changing that belief. Look for other people who have done what you want to do and study them. Realize that it is very likely possible for you too. Change your beliefs and in turn, change your actions. Change your actions and you have a new life!

A Child’s Perspective

You need a 7 Day BrainwashThis past month, my wife and I have started sending our 2 sons to public daycare. The 1 year old is too young to understand what is going on so he is always happy to be there. The 3 year old, on the other hand, has been having a very difficult time in the mornings. As soon as we get in the car, he starts crying and it gets progressively more intense as we get closer to the daycare. By the time we are in his classroom, he is in a near panic, screaming and drawing intense stares from the other parents and staff. Within seconds of me leaving, he completely calms down and gets absorbed with some fun new activity that he would not have been able to experience at home.

Witnessing this really drove home a new realization for me. We all have the ability to experience happiness (or any other positive emotion for that matter) at any time we choose to do so. The advantage with children is that they let go very quickly and have a much easier time living in the moment.

I started thinking more about how most adults handle these kinds of situations, myself included, and in the majority of cases it takes a much longer time to move from a depressed state to one of positivity and happiness.

I can think of many times in my life where I spent an entire day in a negative state carrying around a grudge about something that happened many hours (or even days) prior. At the time, I didn’t even realize that I had control over the situation. Complete victim mentality.

Having spent a number of years working on my own personal development, I now experience far more happy and positive moments than negative ones. But I think it is only human to have times when the doom and gloom creeps in. My new strategy when dealing with these circumstances is to literally think like a 3 year old.

As an example, a few weeks ago I was expecting payment from a client with whom I made an agreement to offer a monthly payment plan. This was something I did more as a favor than a standard policy. When the client ignored my first, then second payment request, I felt myself becoming extremely frustrated. In the past, an event like this might have soured my mood, and in turn my productivity for the entire day (if not longer). I used the opportunity to literally picture myself as the 3 year old easily moving from one moment of devastation to a brand new moment of fun and opportunity. Instead of picking up a coloring book or a new toy fire truck, I picked up my laptop and began working on an exciting new project that I was involved in. My mood shifted immediately. I then took it up a notch with some inspiring music and before I knew it I was feeling amazing and very excited about my day.

I have still not been paid by that client but I’m okay with that now. The new project that I got involved in has already more than paid for the unpaid bill from my deficient client and I’m having a lot more fun with what I’m doing now.

Next time you are feeling overwhelmed by negativity, frustration, anger or depression, try remembering what it was like as a kid when you could experience pure happiness at any moment you chose to do so!

Get motivated with these tips

You need a 7 Day BrainwashThere is no “failure” per se but rather, a choice. Do we choose to draft new plans and keep going? Or do we give up on the idea and move on.

You can do it… you just need to persist. And sometimes that persistence will be the only thing to keep you going.

Take a few minutes to really contemplate this question… “Does your life have meaning?”

Are you creating something that makes you come alive and gives you that meaning we have been talking about?

Realize that anything you want to do CAN BE DONE just where you stand right now. One little action is all it takes.

Some people view life as a set of choices with varying degrees of risk. They then make choices based on risk mitigation rather than gains.

The truth is, if you want to make the most of your life and really experience everything you truly desire, you have no choice but to RISK.

Use today to focus on powerful goals and the powerful actions that you can be taking to advance towards those goals.

Focus on the win and accept the risk as the price you pay for the dream. Will it be worth it? You better believe it.

I want to challenge you today. Make your entire focus about exuding the energy that you want to attract into your life.

We can choose to react to life. Or we can choose to respond to life.

Do you know what triggers your stress?

You need a 7 Day BrainwashBecause stress can be endured over a period of time without the individual truly becoming aware of it or by them simply accepting it as part of their lives, one of the most important aspects of stress management is to take those first positive steps towards making key changes as this will then create the strong foundations that are required to master stress control.

It’s important that progression is consistent throughout; they may be small steps individually but they are powerful ones nevertheless. The idea is to change any existing behaviours and to stress-proof new routines as much as possible, re-inventing both thought and actions going forward. This might sound difficult, but the most difficult aspect is always going to be identifying areas of change, after that, it is merely consolidating those lifestyle changes.

When life is muddled and very stressful, identifying the stress triggers that cause the problems will make changing them that much easier. Taking a pen and paper, write down all of the things that cause the most stress.

– No time to yourself

– Problems with the teenage son or daughter

– Money problems- more going out than coming in

– Feeling undervalued at home and at work

– Too much work

The list should be as comprehensive as possible and very honest. No-one else has to see the list and even those annoying little stressors should be captured because although on their own, they may just be a source of irritation, coupled with other factors, they can form powerful stress triggers that can cause much damage physically, healthily and emotionally.

Once the list is complete, it should be scrutinized with a sense of clarity to identify those areas where changes could be made. If necessary break the list down into a series of sub-sections and options such as:

– Feeling undervalued at home

– Having to do all of the housework as well as work full-time

– Main culprit Husband/Wife step-son

– Started happening when partner changed job and worked a lot more hours (pattern established).

Options

– Open up communication to partner

– Discuss jointly with step son and work out parameters

– Stick to it.

By writing down everything that evokes a stress response i.e. churning feeling in the stomach, headaches, tears, anger, or irritability for example, the individual is able to really understand what is going on in their lives and why they feel the way they do. In addition, this clarification of stress triggers helps the individual to face any set of real problems and tangible problems can always be overcome.

Self doubts, irregular thought patterns and feelings of inadequacies or helplessness are more difficult to fight. Ascertain the true cause of those stressors and deal with them one by one.

Using the Law of Attraction with Love and Family

You need a 7 Day BrainwashThere are two parts of their life which people generally want to change; their work environment and the relationships which they have with their families and their significant others. Can the law of attraction help to strengthen and heal your relationships with others?

The answer is, of course! The people you love are governed by the same ebb and flow of energy as you yourself are, and as such their energies will naturally be attracted to similar energies which are being emitted from another person. If you are vibrating positive energies and emotions they will respond in kind. They will not be able to help themselves; it is the law of attraction at work.

With family there is already a subliminal bond which will help you to improve your relationship right from the very beginning. There are many reasons why family members may find themselves at odds with each other; it is not necessarily a pre-requisite that you like the people you love, and for families who often find themselves in each other’s back pockets and competing for common resources the fights can become quite vicious.

Regardless of the reasons you and your family may have had for falling out it is never good to leave relationships festering. You need to fix them or they will eventually have an impact on the emotional thought vibrations you are giving out, which may start to attract other bad relationships, with colleagues and customers. In order to fix a relationship that has been broken you must first really want to fix it, and then believe that it will happen.

It is very easy to tell the other person that you want to mend your relationships when in reality you continue to carry the resentment that you feel towards them. If you do, you don’t really want to mend your relationship, or if you do you have not yet let go of what has caused the separation in the first place.

Letting go of your resentment is an essential ingredient in finding harmony, for in order for the law of attraction to be able to work you must first rid yourself of all of the negative thought energy you have been sending towards them so far. It is important that you accept the fact that you can forgive and forget, allowing the two of you to move on with your life with a much happier relationship than you have experienced to date.

The process of attracting a significant other is much the same; however, in order for the law of attraction to be able to attract them to you, you must be very specific when making your request to the universe regarding exactly what it is that you are looking for in a relationship.

Remember, the law of attraction means that your subconscious mind is going to be drawn to their subconscious mind. Focus on the kind of values you wish for your perfect partner to possess, the type of relationship that you are looking to share with them (do you want to get married, date casually, etc) as well as personality traits which you feel are especially important. Then allow yourself to believe that you are going to find them.

The last step here is the most important. The belief that a relationship with the person of your dreams is beyond your reach is going to result in you being absolutely correct and pushing this relationship away. Remind yourself that every day hundreds of men and women are building a life with the person of their dreams; there is absolutely no reason why you cannot.

It is essential that once you have placed a request for a significant other with the universe that you are willing to have patience for the desired results to occur. The universe is not always going to give you exactly what you want, exactly when you want it. It does things in its own time.

Now, imagine that you have asked the universe to give you the man or woman of your dreams, but you become impatient because they have not yet become a part of your life within a few months of making the request. You begin to date someone else, and that someone else begins to occupy your mind and your attentions until they are all that you see. They are not the person which you asked the universe for, however; they are simply someone intended to fill the time until that person arrives.

Over the course of time that you are dating this other individual, however, you have become acquainted with quite a lot of new people. These new people are shadows passing in and out of your life because they are not this new person whom you have begun to date. What would you do if the person you had been waiting for was among that number? What if they had come looking for you, but you did not recognize them because you were so busy trying to keep yourself busy until they got there?

It is essential that you do not close either your mind or your heart to the universe because of external distractions; this is the most fatal mistake you could make, because it means that you have lost faith in the ability of the vibrational energies of your mind to interact with the vibrational energies of nature to bring you your desired results, and the negative energies generated from these thoughts will result in the person of your dreams walking away from you before you even knew they were there.

Have you found inner peace?

You need a 7 Day BrainwashYou know how it is when you hear about some terrible disaster on the news and you kind of step back from it? You weren’t there, you don’t know these people. You hear it, you see it, but you can’t relate to it, because quite frankly it would be just too painful. Know what I’m talking about?

Good!

That ability to step back inside yourself like that is not only useful in emotional self defence. Now, I’ve got to be careful here because I don’t want you to think I’m saying you should live in that state all the time. That way you’d never get close to your loved ones or friends.

But try it now, as you read these words. Step back and notice who is doing the reading. Step back from your sense of you and you’ll discover that there is a presence who does the reading. It’s the same presence there’s always been. You have a self that looks out from “inside” that never ages. Don’t you feel the same inside now as you did ten or more years ago?

And you know what else? As you observe, (or perhaps more accurately, allow yourself to notice), that presence you’ll discover some amazing things about it. It is always still. And it is always at peace. Right there. In the centre of you. Can you find it? As you try to answer that question, you might notice who or what it is that seems to search for the answer.

You got it! You found Inner Peace!

Inspire yourself with these 14 quotes

You need a 7 Day Brainwash“No man is good enough to govern another man without that other’s consent.”

Abraham Lincoln

“What you cannot enforce, do not command.”

Sophocles

“No general can fight his battles alone. He must depend upon his lieutenants, and his success depends upon his ability to select the right man for the right place.”

Philip Armour

“To do great things is difficult; but to command great things is more difficult.”

Friedrich Nietzsche

“It is absurd that a man should rule others, who cannot rule himself. (Absurdum est ut alios regat, qui seipsum regere nescit.)”

Latin Proverb

“Let him who would be moved to convince others, be first moved to convince himself.”

Thomas Carlyle

“A good general not only sees the way to victory; he also knows when victory is impossible.”

Polybius

“Any one can hold the helm when the sea is calm.”

Publilius Syrus

“I am only one, But still I am one. I cannot do everything, But still I can do something; And because I cannot do everything I will not refuse to do the something that I can do.”

Edward Everett Hale

“Action may not always bring happiness, but there is no happiness without action.”

Benjamin Disraeli

“Nobody made a greater mistake than he who did nothing because he could do only a little.”

Edmund Burke

“You can’t do anything about the length of your life, but you can do something about its width and depth.”

Shira Tehrani

“Well done is better than well said.”

Benjamin Franklin

“If the world seems cold to you, kindle fires to warm it.”

Lucy Larcom

Motivation breeds success

You need a 7 Day BrainwashMotivation makes all the difference between success and failure and to achieve your goals, it’s vital that you have your own source of instant inspiration that fires you up each day and kick-starts your determination to be successful. With this in mind, it’s vital that you consider your own source of inspiration and what your motivation is exactly.

For some, it’s important that they follow in the footsteps of those members of family who are high achievers or perhaps, they feel that they have to prove themselves to others. It may be of course that the motivation in your case is to prove to yourself that you can be successful.

It’s important to be constantly reminded of your goals and why you have set them for yourself. You can do this quite easily by creating an area in your house so that you can be reminded of your goals every time that you walk by. It doesn’t have to be a list but anything that you want. For example, you could add notes, photos, and headlines from magazines or anything that inspires. If you are after a holiday of a lifetime for example, you could pin up photos of the area and remember just why you are working towards your dream.

Send yourself motivational quotes. You only need to look online to find lots of published motivational quotes, pick those that you really think would help in your goals and email your favorite of the day to your work place so that it is one of the first things that you see yourself each day as a reminder.

You can also plaster notes around your house so that you are constantly stimulated by the power of positive words and images. How far you go with this is up to you but these little reminders do work.

Motivation is all about learning as to what makes you tick. This is the absolute elixir of motivation and once you have it, you can tap into it at any point.

Motivation is very personal, what motivates you might not motivate others and that’s okay. Think about those inner-most dreams that may have been in existence within you for many years, if you don’t make changes to your life and grab any opportunities with both hands, your dreams can diminish.

Manifesting Wealth Using the Law of Attraction

You need a 7 Day BrainwashWould you like more money? Do you doubt that manifesting money using the law of attraction is easy? It actually is very simple to manifest money and wealth, but only if you are trying to manifest it in the right way. Too many people get this wrong- they hear about the law of attraction and immediately start trying to use it to attract money. However, simply hoping, repeating mindless affirmations and visualizing for five minutes just isn’t going to work.

One of the first things people do when they hear of the law of attraction is to complete a lottery ticket and try to visualize winning millions in the hopes of manifesting money as fast as possible. Or they may decide to rush out and start a get rich quick’ type of business thinking it will make them their fortune. When the business fails or their lottery numbers don’t come up, they give up and become frustrated.

I hear people saying all the time, I played the lottery and I didn’t win; the law of attraction is a con.’ Or I started a business and didn’t make any money. This attraction stuff doesn’t work’. The law of attraction always works- the problem is that many people don’t really know how to use it correctly.

Before you do anything to try to manifest money, stop yourself. Do nothing. Before you can truly begin manifesting money you must align your mindset with the money you are going to manifest. Until you manage to do this, you will never attract the money you desire.

Mindset alignment is one of the most important first steps. It shifts your energy away from a place of lack and scarcity into a place of abundance. You can only have what you first become.

When you scrabble around desperately trying to make money, you are trying to create new circumstances with the same state of being where you are right now. In order for your life to change, you must first change your state of being. If you carry on the way you are you will just attract more of what you have already got. This is why most people fail to successfully manifest money or anything else they wish to attract into their lives.

You need to develop a mindset of abundance and wealth. Stop focusing on needing money, and on the fact that you don’t have any right now. If you are constantly worrying about paying your bills or stressing about your large debts, you will never attract wealth. You are stuck in a mindset of poverty and lack, and can only attract more poverty and lack.

Now, imagine how your life would change if you had all the money you need. What would you buy- where would you go on holiday? How free would you feel? Visualize it in as much detail as you can- get excited about how your life is going to be. Don’t let doubts and worries creep in- just focus on the feeling of having all the money you need and feel appreciation that it is on its way to you. Really believe that it is yours and that you deserve to have it.

You must also lose any attachment to the way the money is going to manifest into your life. If you visualize winning the lottery, you are effectively saying to the universe I only want it to happen this way’. This is cutting you off from receiving your wealth from any other source and may take the universe considerably longer to deliver it to you. It is far more powerful to focus on the end result- what you intend to do with the money. For example, think of the new car you will buy, the countries you will visit and the house you will live in. This frees up the universe to deliver your wealth in a way which will be most beneficial to you.

Practice this and you will replace a mindset of lack and scarcity with one of abundance- this is an important first step to manifesting wealth using the law of attraction.