Im No Longer Apologizing For Being Me

I used to apologize for everything. Sorry Im so crazy, sorry I said that, sorry Im so insecure, sorry I didnt come out last night, and so on. Now, apologies are necessary if you did something wrong. However, none of what I just wrote was wrong. I apologized for being me for a long time. Well, I gave that up, just like a bad habit.

First off, Im a girl and I definitely can be crazy. Guess what? If you dont make me crazy, I wont be crazy. Its that simple. If Im not dating a boy who lies and is shady, you wont see my crazy side. If you arent rude or disrespectful to me, I wont make you feel like you’re two inches tall and remind you why you shouldnt mess with my 52 stature. Girls are called crazy, because in situations where we dont know the outcome or we have a bad feeling, our anxiety and research skills come into play. Dont hate us because were resourceful or because you have something to hide.

Im not going to apologize for acting out in a situation Ive been placed in.

I will never apologize for something I have said if I truly meant it. Am I sorry it hurt your feelings? Yes, of course. However, you came to me because you knew I was going to give you 100 percent of the truth. If you didnt want the truth, you would have gone to someone who sugar coats things and I dont know how to do that. I wont apologize for being honest, ever. Besides, I couldnt lie or sugarcoat things even if I tried. If you know me, you know my face says it all and I wont apologize for it. I am not rude or disrespectful by any means, but I have an opinion and Im damn sure I dont care if you hear it.

I am sorry that I am insecure, but that sorry isnt for anyone else to hear.

Its for me and my body. I apologize to my body for not giving it the care it deserves as a strong and beautiful piece of this world. I am sorry for treating it poorly, time and time again and hating it every day. I am truly sorry that I have wasted 24 years not loving it and I will do my best to work on that every day. Thats between me and myself. You better believe youll never make me sorry for showing you my vulnerable side.

Ive had too many people in my life that have tried to use my insecurity as power and that low point in my life is long gone, so dont try me.

I have come to terms with the fact that I am 24-years-old and I should still act young. My best friend and I should spend a Thursday night, drinking beer or sangria until 1am. I should be out dancing all night on a Saturday. However, if its a Friday and youre dying to go out and Im in sweats, my face is washed and Im 4 episodes of One Tree Hill deep on Netflix, with a glass of wine in my hand, chances are Im not moving. I wont apologize for needing a night to myself, ever. I can be loud, social and the life of the dance floor when Im feeling it…but sometimes I want to be antisocial and crawl into the walls of my room and never come out. Ill never apologize for needing to recharge, no matter how lame it is.

I will never apologize or feel like I cant voice my feelings about something. I feel very strongly about LGBT rights, human rights and my voice as a woman. If you dont agree with me, thats your opinion. However, I will never shade what I have to say, so that I dont feel like an outcast or because Im afraid. I will stand up for what I believe in until the day I die and no one can take that from me. So, do me a favor and dont try to make me sound stupid over a topic Im passionate about; it wont work.

We spend a lot of our time trying to please others and wanting to be liked by all things.

Were always trying to be the next fitness story, the girl with the latest hair or clothing style, the one listening to the new music or following the trend of whatever bracelet takes the place of the Alex and Ani.

I hate working out, I love my black hair and the fact that I can wear a Knicks jersey or a dress and feel good. I will blast a Wu-tang album, make you feel intimidated as I rap Nicki Minaj or jam out to my 60s records and not give a second thought about what Taylor Swift is doing. Maybe Im not the prettiest and Im not invested in the trend of becoming a fit girl for instagram, but I have who I need in my life and they love me for who I am; funny, sarcastic, truthful and unapologetically me.

I say, be yourself. People dont have to like you, but you have to like yourself.

Dont be afraid that society is going to call you a bitch for acting this way or that your stance as an independent woman is a cliche. Be your damn self and be proud of it.

Author: Samantha Noviello | Source: Thoughtcatalog.com

30 Short Affirmations For Everyone Who Is Ready To Stop Doubting Themselves

As a whole, it appears to me that affirmations are a principle you either love or hate. Duplicating favorable words to on your own could often really feel helpless, or it could be the conserving grace of an otherwise dreadful day. Yet whether we like it, most of us have days where it seems virtually difficult to stop doubting ourselves, doubting ourselves, as well as merely being unkind to ourselves. So, for those days, having a couple of affirmations that speak with you in your arsenal is not a bad thing. (Its important to note that I didnt create these affirmations; theyre accumulated from various other websites around the web, as well as are credited with the link that follows the quote, or the authors name.) For everyone that spent too much time today questioning themselves, below are 30 brief affirmations to advise you of your value:
1. I are worthy of all that is good. I announced any requirement for suffering as well as suffering.

2. All is well in my world and also I trade love as well as acceptance with the globe.

3. I release the should prove myself to any individual as I am my very own self and I enjoy it by doing this.

4. I understand that I have the power to change; that each minute, each early morning is an opportunity to try a new, different invigorating means.

5. I am transforming into someone who constantly stands up for just what they believe in.

6. I approve myself for who I lack judgment or criticism.

7. I relinquish my anger, release impatience and accept peace and also happiness into my heart.

8. I forgive those who have triggered me pain and also think I am capable of giving love in addition to getting love.

9. I deserve caring. There is love throughout me. Louise Hay

10. I am a cultured and also wise but, a simple person.

11. I am the celebrity, its about time I radiate.

12. I will live my life to calm myself, not others.

13. I think prosperity is feasible in every location of my life.

14. I change I must, I should, as well as I have to with I pick.

15. I inhale self-confidence and exhale worry.

16. I have honesty. I am completely reputable. I do exactly what I claim.

17. With each severe word provided my means I learn, expand, and increase with compassion, deepness and wisdom so I can recover others with rate, focus as well as clearness.

18. I am greater than my past, my mistakes, my mistakes, my scenarios, my struggles, or my illness. I am a wonderful totality of incomplete components just enhanced by my choices, fearlessness and also effect.

19. I will always count on myself as well as my capacity to prosper.

20. Others admire me as a leader as a result of my self-confidence.

21. I don’t enable the harshness of others or the world around me to set the soft qualities that lives inside me. It is my softness that aids to recover the globe.

22. Nourishing myself is a cheerful encounter as well as I am worth the time spent on my recovery. Louise Hay

23. I now complimentary myself from damaging anxieties and questions.

24. I am appreciative for the capability to learn something new per day.

25. There is constantly light at the end of the passage. That light is within me.

26. I consciously launch the past and live just in the present. In this way I reach delight in and also experience life fully.

27. Wellness is the natural state of my body. Louise Hay

28. I forgive and value my mistakes, accidents, blunder, nasty words and mood losses as products I should attempt on for dimension to genuinely understand just what a bad fit theyd be for my psychological, bodily and also spiritual closet.

29. I am flawlessly imperfect. I strive for much better while liking all that I am today. In loving myself today, I am much better outfitted to boost myself tomorrow.

30. I recognize that fear is an impression and I will not let it disable me.

Author: Maya Kachroo-Levine | Source: Thoughtcatalog.com

10 Types Of People YouReally Dont Need In Your Life

People inspire you, or they drain you pick them wisely ~ Hans F. Hansen

1. The Naysayers

The ones who dump on your dreams and doubt everything and everybody and are always thinking why something will not work instead of how to make it work. They are the ones who will not be happy if you make it and will make fun of you if you dont. These are the people successful people have learned to stay away from.

2. The Entitled

The ones who feel like theyre better and smarter than anyone else, and are entitled to belittle people or get away with things other people cant. They are constantly talking about themselves that they are probably not listening to anyone around them. They will never compromise or go out of their way to help and they will always believe that no one else is worth their time. And this is why you also dont need to waste your time with them.

3. The Fake

The ones who make you question how genuine they really are, whether you should believe their compliments, their advice or even their love for you. Theyre always saying things they dont mean to people they dont like and you’re not sure which category you belong to. It can be exhausting to keep up with these people.

4. The Dramatic

The ones who always want to make a scene and make it about , the ones who always rain on your parade and will find a way to ruin a special occasion. They are constantly putting on a show and expecting everyone to watch and listen. Stay away from people who enjoy making their lives difficult because they will eventually make difficult too.

5. The Hostile

The ones who like to stir up controversy and cause fights between people if they are not the ones who are fighting, they think everyone is out to get them and they find it hard to love others. Theyre always picking on people and pointing out their flaws and their intimidating attitude pushes people away. Hostile people will never bring positivity into your life.

6. The Mysterious

The ones who will never tell you much about themselves; you never know what they really do or who theyre actually dating or where they really live. Theyre always so elusive and vague and their conversations are very shallow and superficial. They know how to get people to talk about themselves but are very calculated about how much they reveal.

7. The Manipulators

The smooth talkers. They always know how to convince people to buy whatever sh*t theyre selling. They know how to talk to you like youre a friend and they act like they know what makes you happy and who you are, but they always want something more from you or have a hidden agenda. Theyre planning for something under the facade of friendship until they get what they want and then vanish.

8. The Opportunists

The ones who will talk to you only after you got that job or that car or started dating that person because they know that you can offer them something they need. They only remember you when youre at your highest and forget about you when youre at your lowest. The ones who only want to show you off instead of truly appreciating your company.

9. The Ghosts

The ones who hang out with you everyday then suddenly disappear for months and then come back into your life again like nothing happened. Theyre always unpredictable and moody and they never keep their word. Their plansarealways on their terms and usually months apart if they actually adhered tothese plans. You can never count on these people and they will never let you count on them anyway.

10. The Liars

Those who lied to you before and lied to almost everyone they know. You cannever trust them and they will never run out of lies to tell you. Not only about themselves but they will lie to you and tell you what you want to hear instead of the truth. They definitely dont have your best interest at heart and you will never get an honest feedback from them.

Author: Rania Naim | Source: Thoughtcatalog.com

Life is Not Easy But You Should Live Anyway

myselfhelpdiary lifeLife is hard. You may have heard of this before and this is very true. Life is also funny with all of its twists and turns and most of the time no one is laughing as they take the ride. So the main question is, why is life not easy? There are countless of reasons for that but let us take a few of them.

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How to Find Your Inner Strength

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Life gives us challenges that can be difficult and painful. It is the challenges in life that makes us stronger and who we are. Whether you are coping with loss of income, an end to a marriage, death of a loved one, etc. we all have struggles in life. Learning from these experiences is crucial in taking the next positive steps to find your self again.

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Changing the Way You Talk to Yourself

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Talking to yourself negatively can destroy your self-confidence and make problems in relationships. We feel that we are unworthy to be loved, incapable of doing anything good, and unable to finish something that has value. Words can cut like swords in every soul and destroy success and happiness. Changing how we talk needs awareness of what we are saying. Most people, unfortunately, do not realize that they are talking to themselves negatively. Unless another person will notify them.

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Personal Growth – Protect Yourself Emotionally

myselfhelpdiary protect yourself emotionallyThere are people who get nervous about investing emotionally in relationships and friendships. They feel unworthy of being loved and appreciated by others or may have been hurt from previous relationships. With that being said, self-protection happens and it can be done in different ways.

Disengaging yourself mentally is a good way to protect yourself from emotional hurt but it can also avoid you from establishing emotional happiness and meaningful relationships. Distancing yourself by not engaging mentally may seem boring, aloof, hostile, and disinterested to others. Other people may feel that they are being ignored but in reality they do not know how to start a conversation and may feel a little awkward.

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Suffering from Shyness or Social Phobia? Here are Tips to Overcome Them

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Shyness is rooted in self-conscious and usually flourishes as people get mature and become experienced. On the other hand, for some people it can stick, and then actions are needed.

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4 Keys on How to Be Assertive

myselfhelpdiary how to be assertiveDo you know someone who is overly aggressive or too pushy? That car salesman who approached you before you even got out of your car? Did he come too strong or too fast? You probably get turned off with that. Being aggressive or overly aggressive has its own time and place.

On the other hand, we must be assertive at times. In business, assertiveness is an important quality. Being assertive does not imply that you are overly aggressive. Even the most soft-spoken, mild-mannered people have to be assertive sometimes. Being assertive is expressing yourself to show the value in whatever it is your promoting.

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